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Are You Making Numb Choices?

You have the power to choose!It seems we are always hearing how important focus is to reaching our goals and bringing our desires to us. However, sometimes our focus is totally off. We work hard, do what we think we should, spin our wheels, and run faster on the hamster wheel, only to remain stagnant.

 

Why do you suppose this is? Well, one possibility is that when we are determining our focus, our brains are actually numb. If you want to read a funny story that illustrates this point, go here.

 

While somewhat “asleep” we are fully intent and focused on carrying out our daily lives, getting to the “other side”, even attempting to achieve goals or dreams.

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Sometimes, our minds and hearts have become numb and we are making decisions based on survival, rather than fully living.
I’ll share with you 5 reasons I think we become numb, and 4 ideas of how to awaken in my article here.

I hope you will read it and take to heart the joy of living fully alive!

Love and growth!
Passionista

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The Lies That Bind Us

 

You were created for a purpose

and are amazing,

creative,

valuable,

and productive.

YOU were born to shine!!

I was born to shine

Do you believe that? Or do you struggle to believe that you were born to shine because instead you believe lies about yourself? Perhaps lies like you are stupid, unlovable, you will never amount to anything, you are ugly, or you are worthless.

If so, these lies are the result of believing negative things you have felt or that people have said about you. Many of us have done that and are now full of hurt and feel broken.

So what do I mean when I say “lies”?

 

Lies are thoughts or the words and actions of others that cause us to behave in a self-defeating or destructive way. Lies are limiting because they create FEAR and hold us back.

I describe fear as

Firmly Encouraging and Allowing Rubbish.

When we listen to all that rubbish going on in our brain it’s impossible to be our real, true selves. Most likely we haven’t been taught about how thought processes work so we continue to believe rubbish about ourselves. It piles up over the years until we have a whole ton of garbage that weighs us down. My goal is to help you, in a simplified way, understand how our thoughts can work against us.

The lies we believe during our formative years set us up to believe lies as adults. By the time we become adults we are firmly entrenched in this belief system which affects how we consider ourselves.

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Belief Determines Behavior

So how do we change our belief system so we can change our behavior?

Find out how by reading my article here.

 

If you’d like to read my first post on this subject (because it’s one that is dear to my heart), find it here.

 

May your life be blessed as you incorporate these ideas to help you live with fullness and freedom from the fear that binds.

Love and big hugs along this journey,

Passionista

 

Inspiration

I Hope You Blew It!

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I hope you have messed up really big. At least once in your life. Better yet, a whole bunch of messes. Mistakes. Wrong choices. Foot-in-your-mouth embarrassment and falling down onstage kinds of messing up.

And please don’t think I’m mean, but I really hope that life has given you lemons. And disappointments. And some really hard times to work through.

Now before you think me cruel-hearted, stay with me a bit. I have some things to say about why struggles and challenges in our life are a good thing. This is truly a Motivational Monday post and you can read the rest here.   

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And if something I said helped you (because that is what this is for, actually) go ahead and share it with someone who needs it too! I’d be ever so grateful! Spread the word!

Love and hugs,

Passionista Mimi

 

 

 

 

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Self-Care Is Love

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We put everyone and everything else first, at the expense of our health and spirit. Society has programmed us that way. Stop listening to the lies. You are enough already. MORE than enough.

 

You do not have to earn your way or work to deserve love (I learned this way too late in life) and there is nothing to prove.

 

You are amazing and capable and wonderful just the way you are.

 

Your job will be there (asking more and more).

 

Your house will be dirty anyway. Ask for help. Have a family meeting.

State your purpose and reason for taking some self time.

 

And KNOW that you don’t have to do it all.

 

At work, do a quality job, but don’t sacrifice your health and family and creative outlets to try and satisfy unrealistic demands and standards.

 

Respect yourself and others will too.

 

Darlin’, GO for that walk, to art class, out with friends, to yoga.

Take a long bath.

Paint, draw, color, shape, mold, sew, dig–whatever fills your creative spirit.

Say “no” more.

Give yourself space to breathe.

 

When we love ourselves, we love everyone else better.

That is all there is to it!!

 

By the way, I love you. (And I’m going to go do some stretches. Yay me!)

Thanks for visiting.

Love and hugs, Passionista

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What’s In A Word?

 

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The year is flying by and we are well into 2016. At this point, if we made New Year’s resolutions, about eighty percent of us will have abandoned them. That used to be me but I don’t set resolutions any more. I’ve adopted a different approach to help me focus on reaching important life changes, business goals, and spiritually-nourishing activities that I need in my life.

 

I now use the “Word Of The Year” as my guide. The program I use is by Carrie Saba who is a health and lifestyle coach.

 

I’m sure you have heard “What you focus on you become” and “You get what you focus on” most likely having realized these truths for yourself. So choosing to focus on one word will give you incredible intensity!

 

Here’s the deal. Words have energy. Words speak life. Choosing one word to envelop, sustain, and help create your life for a year will bring what you are focusing on into your life. It’s a simple yet powerful way to guide your actions, choices, and plans, and achieve change.

 

To read the rest of my article about this empowering way to set goals, and to receive a gift code for a FREE companion guide to choosing your own WOTY, visit Abrazine.com here. The gift code is available until March 31, so get over there and grab it!!

 

Until next time, may you shine your light for all to see!

Love and hugs, Passionista Mimi

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Bird Rules: A Lighthearted Correlation Between Birds and Humans

 

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Today I’m sharing my post on Aabrazine.
I love watching the birds outside my kitchen window, and they have actually taught me some things about life!

 

I hope this post delights you. And maybe you can take some time to watch the birds too.

 

Until next time,

love and hugs, Passionista

 

 

 

 

Inspiration

First You Must Trust Yourself

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First you must trust yourself…if you can’t, you may put too much weight on what others think or say. 

 

Everything you need is inside you.

Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

You are enough. You are capable.

You are fabulous.

Your own mind and heart know. Truly.

Just take the time to see and know

what’s inside of you. 

 

It’s actually pretty amazing!

 

Inspiration

Why NOT Me?

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You should never feel as if you are insignificant and undeserving.

Dream that dream.

Set those goals before you.

Because, why shouldn’t you reach them?

You, as much as anyone you admire,

deserve the chance to do what your heart desires.

Yep, sometimes it takes a long time.

And it’s really, really tough.

But that is what makes the dream or goal valuable!

If it wasn’t hard and didn’t take a lot of investment,

if it was easy, would you value it as much?

Why NOT you?

Only you can set those limitations on yourself.

Think about it. 

Love and hugs, Passionista Mimi

Words To Help

We Can’t Give More Than What We Are

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Without giving ourselves compassion,

 we can’t be compassionate.

When we judge ourselves harshly,

we can’t be accepting.

If we feel that our lives lack,

we can’t give generously.

When we feel that we are not enough,

we can’t lift up and applaud others.

When we take ourselves too seriously,

we can’t enjoy life.

If we don’t love ourselves unconditionally,

we can’t truly love others without conditions.

If we aren’t honest with ourselves,

we can’t grow and change.

These are truths I’ve gleaned over the years

of re-inventing myself.

Of becoming the person I was truly created to be.

I believe JOY

Your life is amazing. If you are breathing, you have something to be grateful for. And gratefulness will create joy. It will bring abundance (I’m not talking monetary value, but the value of life, friends, and passions that fill your soul.)

And just in case you were wondering…..there is enough for all of us.

Enough love

passion

friends

work

joy

adventure

creativity

We have a tendency to view the world from our little worm hole

and think that we are never, ever going to be enough, have enough, or live enough.

I used to be like that.

Then I realized that there are billions of people. Millions of opportunities.

We live in a great big world.

And though you may not especially like your life right now, it can change.

Change is always possible.

Of course, it means conquering the limiting emotion of fear.

It means you have to stop lying to yourself. 

To change means becoming vulnerable.

YIKES!! No way! I can’t do it! I’m so afraid! It will hurt too much.

And what will happen to me?

Change will happen. Better will happen. Abundance will happen.

So will love, joy, adventure, assurance, confidence, and fulfillment.

I’m rooting for you, cheering you on as you make wise, healthy choices toward becoming more so you can give more.

For it’s in giving that we grow toward abundance.

Thank you for reading, and I hope you have a wonderful week.

Love and hugs, Passionista

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Stop Trying To Get It Right

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Today I read those words from Your Worthy Self and I wanted to stand up and cheer!

 

For so many, many years, actually for decades, I lived my life trying to get everything right. Typical “People Pleaser” right here.

 

The thing about living like that? It’s exhausting. And depletes our joy. And we give other people power over us because we make “them” right. 

 

So, here’s what I say. Decide what you want and go for it. Who cares if you make mistakes? So what if you miss at first? Give yourself some grace. And don’t give a darn what others think. (Many of them are hoping you fail because then it excuses their own fear. Did you know that?) 

 

You owe it to your true self to attempt those things that you believe will fulfill your soul. What if you never go for it? You will always wonder what would have happened if you did–how your life might have changed for the better–what you may have learned along the way. 

 

Don’t live with regrets. Just do it. With gusto and abandon!!

Because, you just never know!!

 

(Print out the above reminder and put it where you can read it daily. )

 

Live LOUD friends! You have one life. Live it with gusto!

Love and hugs, Passionista Mimi