Fear can keep you
from attaining something you want.
Whether you think it’s possible or not
depends on the way you see yourself.
Believe that you are capable of anything
and you will be.
Some days it feels like just getting through the day is impossible!
But don’t ya know? I make it every time, and then ta daaaa!!
It WAS possible.
Whatever hard task lies before you, take it one step at a time, and you will make it.
You can DO it!!
I believe in you, because I know you have the good stuff in you. You are glorious.
Here’s to moving forward.
Love and sparkle hugs, Mimi
So really. Why would you follow in the exact footprints of someone else?
They do not have YOUR unique qualities, gifts, abilities, and desires, and you don’t have theirs.
Should you fashion your life after what other people say? Should you let what is important to them be what guides you?
Perhaps to some degree, if they are people you love. But when it comes to achieving what you truly desire in life, I believe that you need to be the one to determine what is most important to you.
And please, do not let people’s opinions of you alter your course one bit! Know your own truth.
YOU are the one to determine
the kind of person you want to be.
What you wear, how you talk,
what your goals are,
the things that fulfill your heart,
what kind of job you want,
the kind of a person you want a relationship with,
where you want to live, how you run your home,
what books you read,
how much schooling you obtain……
these should be things of your choosing and should not be dictated by the choices of others.
Of course I am not discounting the wise counsel of people. We all need help with decisions and lifestyle issues.
I’m referring to giving up yourself
in order to follow blindly.
Or relinquishing your desires
because someone thinks they are silly.
Or not wearing something you love
because no one else does.
Or not truly honoring your heart and spirit
because others criticize you for it.
You have a brain, emotions, intelligence, reason, values, morals, and common sense.
Use them to figure out, and pursue, what is valuable to you. Mark your own path, and
Write your own script for your life!
As always, I thank you for visiting. I’d love to know what you think!
Love and sparkly hugs,
Oh darling, don’t you know that who you are is the most amazing and fabulous gift to the world? Who you are is full of wonder and possibility. You deserve to be loved and fulfilled in what you do. I know it’s tough many days. I know some of you are not in an ideal situation. I know some of you feel as if the ground is swallowing you up and closing in over you.
I know because I’ve been there. And it took action and big steps (in little baby steps) to get me out of that hole. But I am here to tell you that YOU can start today to change your situation. There are people who will help you.
Do not try to do it alone. I know, precious one, that you feel as if you must be strong and do this life thing (as hard and unpleasant as it is) by yourself because that’s who you are. Well, you only limit yourself when you limit your possibilities.
Start talking to people. Start saying what you want and need. I promise, lightning will not strike you. Start asking for help. Start with someone you trust and get them involved in seeking help you and ways to improve and/or get out of your situation.
You are NOT alone! You do not have to suffer in silence. There ARE solutions. I know. I found them.
The biggest thing is to start realizing how valuable you are. How much the world needs your special, unique gifts and love. Start telling yourself the TRUTH–that you are amazing and have wonderful abilities and gifts for this world.
Start seeking ways to BE who you really are. To pour out your beautiful spirit and shine your gorgeous light.
Because darling, you are perfect, just as you are! Never apologize.
Love and sparkly hugs! Mimi
Having children with special needs is such a challenge! But one thing I’ve learned….it keeps us TOTALLY dependent on God. No way can I be “in control” because in the blink of an eye, our life could be in shambles.
There are days my prayer has been, “Oh God, oh God, oh God” because I just didn’t have words. Didn’t have energy to formulate words. It was all I could do to breathe and take care of my children (I am their only parent). Some weeks (months) every.single.day is a challenge. Like pushing a locomotive up a steep mountain.
And then, thank God, we will get a reprieve and I can at last take a deep breath. And I just sit. And sit. And let God fill my mind, body, and breath. And He brings healing to my emotions.
Because there is no doubt about how emotionally draining it is to watch your child hurt, or be disappointed because of physical limitations, or become emotionally so out-of-sorts that all day is a battle.
Or how physically and emotionally exhausting it is to be making hard, frustrating, impossible decisions for the duration of several days.
Sleep-deprived, worry-filled, and constantly searching for solutions can totally wring a person out!
But oh, God is able! The video below is amazing and so uplifting.
Mandisa sings her song Overcomer with clips of people who have overcome some extreme physical challenges.
I equate the physical with our mental and emotional challenges. It’s not an easy journey (Wait, what? It’s gonna be hard? Hey, I didn’t sign up for that!!!) But a journey that I hope will bring God glory. Because the glory is all His.
Anything that I’ve accomplished with my children has been while He was holding my hand, speaking into my spirit (sometimes I didn’t want to hear Him–la la la la la!), and guiding my every move. Because I was useless. Incapacitated.
In spite of that, and because of Him, my children are amazing miracles. But that’s a story for another time. Enjoy the video. You will be hooked!
Thank you so much for stopping by. YOU are the reason I write.
Be kind and share with someone who could use this. 🙂
Love and sparkly hugs,
One year since I kissed you goodbye
and watched you leave us.
My heart hurts in missing you.
My arms long to hug you.
My soul needs to talk with you.
I love you with all my heart, sweet sister.
Your leaving taught me two very important things:
1) To celebrate myself.
To wear the crazy tiara, or as you did, hot pink leathers, and be a biker babe–or whatever I want to.
To have fun, party now,
and do not worry about what others think.
To enjoy that I am just a bit different
from most people.
Life is very, very short,
and it really doesn’t matter what others think.
It’s MY life, and I’m going to live it to the fullest!
2) To love even more fiercely than I do.
To speak even more truthfully.
To stand firm and not waver in the face of obstacles.
Because, I only have a short time to make an impact on people’s lives.
I’ve gotta get my truth out there!
Thank you for being an example and teaching me important things.
I’ll miss you until the day I see you again, little sis.
You have my heart. Your big sister.
Today my friend’s situation reminded me of the need for this card. There are a bunch of things pressing in on me and my brain is in a tizzy (southern expression for going crazy).
*I’m trying to get a seat belt installed before heading south. I had to cut it because my son became entangled in it, it retracted, and there was no other way to get him out. My auto tech guy had torn my van apart in order to access where it has to be installed, only to find out that I received the wrong seat belt from the dealer where I’d ordered it.
I’m crunched for time here. The seat belt cost $100 and now I have to drive 20 minutes to return it. And order another one, which would come in next Tuesday or Wednesday! Or try to find one. Have I mentioned I’m crunched for time?
*I may need new tires too because mine aren’t grabbing all that well in the snow. AND it’s supposed to snow/sleet on the day we are scheduled to leave. Ugh!
*I am working tonight, and while that is generally a fun time, I have been running for months and just want to be home. Tomorrow is another day of running. I’m getting kind of pooped. And honestly, doing this alone is sometimes overwhelming.
*I have a ton of wrapping to do before I leave. Because I haven’t even been home, this has mounted up. Not to mention the laundry, packing for a week, dishes, trying to keep growing teens fed….. I just want to stay home one full day!
The list is adding up, besides all the Christmas-y “to dos” that are the usual. Programs, gifts, decorating, and such.
SO I am practicing what I write about. I am taking a deep breath. I am trusting that things will all be finished, and I am believing that my Father has it all under control.
I do NOT want worry to steal from this most miraculous season. Last night I was crabby with my kids. That’s not how I want to spend the next week! I want to celebrate this season by relishing in each precious moment with my children and my family. These times pass so very quickly, and honestly, people are what it’s all about.
I’m also looking for alternative solutions:
I can wrap my presents when I get to my family’s house.
I can stay off of Facebook so I have more time.
I can choose the most important things to do first, instead of doing 6 things at once like I usually do.
And the money? Well I know that will work out. And I am working tonight so that will help.
I know from experience that these things do actually smooth out. So right now?
I am choosing to revive my inner warrior and banish the worrier!
What about you?
I am wishing you a very blessed and calm Christmas season. It is fast approaching, and I hope you can enjoy it to the fullest. That is MY plan.
Love and blessings and big sparkle hugs!
It doesn’t matter what is being said about you.
It doesn’t matter what others think of you.
What matters is what you think of yourself!
And if you believe lies about yourself, then you will act on those lies instead of the truth.
Any words that make you seem “less than” the amazing person you were created to be is a LIE!
Those words may come from the chatter in your brain, just regurgitating things you have heard.
They may come from actual people who are small-minded and have their own agenda.
But whatever the source, you need to STOP listening to the derogatory lies and begin to speak truth to yourself.
Because when you believe lies, you think small about yourself.
It’s pretty hard to launch out of your comfortable, ho-hum, dream-draining life by thinking small.
You can barely rise to doing those things the world needs from you–your purpose for being here.
“But I don’t WANT to leave my comfort zone! It’s comfortable.”
Ummm, yeah. And it’s restricting and limiting. (Redundant, I know, going for the effect.)
And leaving your comfort zone is like jumping off the high dive.
But don’t you want to be the best you can be?
Don’t you want to realize amazing and wonderful things about yourself–things you never knew?
When we rocket ourselves (because that’s what it takes!) outside of our comfort zone to do those things that our heart really, really longs to do, all kinds of new worlds and information opens up to us! It could become quite an adventure–mine has!
And the wonderful thing is that our hearts and spirits become more fulfilled as we begin to venture out and try things our heart is leading us to do.
**Things the lies make us afraid to do.**
“I am not smart enough for that.
I could never go in front of people.
I really do not have the “look” required for that.
I don’t have the time for that.
No one needs me.
I’m not qualified.
I’m just a ________.” Oh how I hate that word!
The lies (excuses) are limitless.
But so are YOU!!
The only thing holding you back is you.
Stop believing lies and restricting the amazing, capable, beautiful person you are!
You CAN do this! I know, because I did.
Love and big sparkly hugs!
I speak from experience!! Seriously!
If you would like to read more, here are some older posts on the subject.
To Dream (when I jumped off the high dive myself!)
The Lies That Bind Magazine Article (a much longer article in more detail)
Truly we are living in a time where darkness could threaten to overtake us. Many things are pulling at our spirits and some days it’s a huge battle to stay positive and uplifting.
If you are a parent, you know the effects of being grumpy, impatient, or dismissive to your children while you are feeling down in the dumps. It’s quite important to be on top of your feelings and communicate with your children if you are having a bad day. That is being honest. We shouldn’t pretend everything is fine if we are feeling out-of-sorts, because children are really good detectives. And, at least with my own, they will become anxious, sensing that something is wrong, and begin to act out themselves.
Unfortunately, right now during election time, anxiety and fear are on the rise. I’m not going to debate anything here, but if you have even been half awake the last several months, you know what I’m talking about. Vanessa writes about it and adds her wisdom. Make sure you visit her site to take advantage of the opportunity mentioned at the end of her post.
A discussion had taken place on Facebook. A political one (shocker!). And I found myself getting sucked into it.
My engagement in it was minimal, but the effect it was having on me was significant. I allowed it to suck me in, to take me to a place that felt very dark. It left me feeling confused, fearful and isolated.
As I stood there at my kitchen sink, washing up the last of the dinner dishes, I realized that I was giving power to this darkness by permitting it to invade my mind and my spirit.
And that’s when I felt the gentle voice of my Heavenly Father reminding me of the truth. The truth of His sovereignty and what He is calling me to be in this temporary world of mine.
He is calling me to be light.
So, when I was approached by my dear friend Deborah of Salvage Sister and Mister to join the challenge to be the light in the ever growing dark world and confusing world of social media, I didn’t hesitate to say yes!
***During the week of Nov 1-8, 8 bloggers will share their stories and encouragement to be the light in the darkness.***
The purpose of the ‘Be the Light Challenge’ is to encourage~
How to share opinions (political or not) in a Godly manner
How to guard our hearts and minds
How to deal with conflict online
Setting limits/boundaries (1 Corinthians 6:12)
Encouraging/building others up
Fruits of the Spirit
Visit her blog post for the links to other bloggers that are helping us through the darkness. I’m really glad they are doing this.
Perhaps you’d like to shine YOUR light too. Think about it.
Big hugs and sparkles and lotsa LIGHT!!
Goodness this last six months has been incredibly busy. I seriously don’t know how I had time to teach full time before I retired. Of course, I’ve added three jobs since then, all of them MY businesses. And I am entirely responsible for all three. That along with raising two special needs kiddos in their teen years (and all the doctor visits involved with that) has kept me super busy.
I will catch up on happenings later. Right now I want to show you my 2017 calendar! I’m very excited about it. Instead of using a template with the borders provided like the last two years, I created all my own borders. I also decided that instead of using my previously published cards, I would design all new ones.
This year I focused on affirmations. For half of the months you have three “I am” statements to read every day. Thus you will hopefully integrate them into your spirit!
For the other six months I have given written statements about you. I truly enjoyed creating this calendar. I know it will make a difference in your self-esteem and also in that of the females in your life.
It’s a great gift for friends, daughters, granddaughters, nieces, ANY person who could use a little reminder of how amazing and capable they are–which means all of us!
Visual reminders are the best!! And then when we say these words out loud? Oh yeah!! Way to start believing them. We can reprogram our brains to think the truth about who we are, instead of listening to the lies we tell ourselves.
The pages are easy to write on, which is important in my book. Glossy on the picture and matt on the calendar. Perfect!
The squares marking each day are a bit over 1 1/4″ square, large enough to jot your goals or achievements down. Great for marking progress each day!
Size is 17″ by 11″ when open so it can tuck into a small space. But it will make quite the visual impact! Place by your bathroom mirror to give you a message every morning, or in your office or work area so that while you are daydreaming you’ll be reminded of WHO you are!!
I really hope you will add one of these to your life because you deserve to be told how wonderful you are on a daily basis! If you’d like to purchase you can go to my shop on Etsy.
Have a great day, my friends!
Hugs and Sparkles,