Do You Love Your Child “Every Single Bit”?

I designed this card to express how I feel about my children. How about saying these words to your own children? Help them feel like precious treasures. Because when children know that they are amazing and wonderful and CHERISHED, they have a healthy foundation for self-love and courage, and know that they have a safe place supporting them. 

 

On the other hand, please don’t let your child hear that they were a surprise, or a mistake, or an “oopsie”. Those words can damage for life. If you were blessed with a child, however that happened, they are a treasure to be cherished. 

 

Am I always diligent about letting my children know I love them, every single bit? No, of course not! I make mistakes, lose my temper, say things I shouldn’t. But I really try. I want them to know the gift they are to me.

 

Side note: Does that mean always sacrificing MY needs for theirs? No. I believe that always making them a priority, even over my own needs, teaches entitlement and expectation that the world will revolve around them, which we all know is not true. I model healthy self-love by taking time for myself and doing things that help replenish my spirit and restore my brain so I CAN take care of them better. 

 

So, my friends, won’t you join with me in telling your children that you love them, “every single bit”?

 

(You can buy this card in my Etsy shop or click on the image to go directly.)

Have a great day, folks!!

Hugs and sparkles, Mimi

The Divalution Show With Guest Mimi Matthews :)

I had such a great time on The Divalution Show Tuesday night! Click on this link to listen.

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This show has four of us talking back and forth, so it’s like a group of friends got together and chatted. We talked about happenings in the area and the Divalution Project, tiaras and sparkle, and how cool it is to meet new people, among other things.

 

For those who have very limited time (this show is a bit over an hour long), but would like to listen to my story, here are some notes for listening. You can hover your cursor over the audio feed line and the time counter on the left will cue you. But if you have the time, the whole show is fun to listen to.

 

I was “interviewed” throughout the show, and “my” parts are as follows:
*At 3:10 I am introduced and I told a bit about who I am.
*From 5:06-17:30 I tell my story and about how my Empowordment Cards came to be.
*From 24:55-29:48 I talk about my Calendars and Journals
*From 29:50- 35:15 Why I feel I was chosen to speak and write, and a bit about my journey
*From 49:00-51:10 Choosing a Word Of The Year instead of a New Year’s resolution
*From 58:70-61:50 conclusion of my part

 

Here’s the link again to listen: The Divalution Show with guest Mimi Matthews

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I’d love it if you’d listen and comment below. This is my first appearance on a radio show. Several want me to host a show and go live every other week. Hmmmm, I’m not sure I’d have enough to talk about. Bahahaha. Well, we will see. For sure it would give me another platform to get the message out.

 

Thanks for stopping by. As always, I love to have you!

Love and big sparkle hugs,

Mimi

 

I’m Going Live! Check It Out!

Oh my gosh I’m so excited! Deborah St. Hilaire from Bay City is interviewing me, live, tonight on her Divalution Radio! Check it out. 7:00 p.m. (Eastern) on W4DIVAS.com.  It should be a good time. 🙂

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Also, we will meet early and collaborate about holding women’s small group meetings at her amazing studio/storefront/gathering space. This has been one of my dreams for five years. And what will I call these gatherings? Well, as Passionista At Large, they will be “Passionista Playdates”!! Comment below if you are interested in these and I’ll keep you posted. (Location is Bay city, Michigan)

It seems my words of the year “Expand” from last year and “Abundance” for this year are working for me! Sometimes it really takes just putting one foot in front of the other and doing what you know to do at the time.

 

So carry on with your bad selves, shine YOUR light, and rock 2017!

Love and BIG hugs, Passionista

Going! Going! Gone?

You didn’t sign up for my blog to receive news about my Empowordment Cards, but because positive self image and encouraging others is my THING, these cards are a part of ME. Sooooo….

I won’t do a bazillion posts about them. BUT….

I have put a bunch of cards on 50% off sale, and I thought you might want to know.

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Some of these designs are the first ones I created TWO years ago! And while I love them–they are like my babies, after all–I need to make room for some new designs. Sixty-three cards is a lot to manage, especially when they decide to throw a party behind my back! And let’s not talk about carrying them around when I do shows and such! Ugh! Can we say weighsalot?

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This is a great time to stock up on cards for the year. I mean, where can you purchase a colorful, unique, glossy, heavy-weight, Mimi-designed 5×7 greeting card for $1.50? These are works of art, people. Well, some folks think so!

I mean they are all the rage in NYC!!

 

I have cards on sale that are fitting for birthday,

 

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graduation,

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Valentine’s and Sweetest Day or anniversary,

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celebrations,

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and just plain ol’ encouragement.

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Take a walk on the wild side and browse on over at my shop to choose the ones you want to stock up on.

NOTICE: once they are out of stock, they are gone! Unless you want to order a 10-pack and then I’d be happy to re-order you some. 🙂

Thanks for letting me pitch a sale in your inbox. 🙂

 

Click right HERE to gain entrance to the much-coveted SALE section of my Etsy shop.

Shhhhh, you are the first to get a shot at it. But tomorrow I’m tellin’ the WORLD!!

 

And thank you soooo much for being my READERS!! I can’t even tell you what it means!

Love and really big sparkly HUGs to you,

Mimi

P.S. My watermark (logo) does not appear on the front of the cards you buy. It’s just for copyright purposes that it’s on them here.

 

Eighteen Days of Whew!

Whew, what a crazy, busy last few weeks! From November 9 to 26 I was rarely home! In that two and a half weeks I:

had four days of vendor shows, including three setup-and-takedowns

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taught reading to kindergarteners for four days,

drove to Kentucky and back (7 hours one way) to celebrate Thanksgiving with my family for two days,

and then worked again on Monday.

By Tuesday I was almost comatose! Let’s just say that this old(er) passionista was draaaaaaging her heels!

So the days I didn’t work I took naps. That’s my go-to self-care. And if I don’t take care of myself I’m no good to anyone, especially my kiddos.

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If you remember, I am the only parent of two special needs teens. So it’s a bit high-maintenance at times, but they have come sooo far! Traveling with them has gotten so much easier! I now pack about half of what I had to before. Yay! Marking off those milestones!

Good news: my sales at the vendor shows were pretty good. I’m so thankful! I sold twenty-eight (28!!!) of my calendars. So excited that the words and affirmations will be helping people all year to remember their worth, their fabulous-ness, and that they are amazing. It’s just such a rush to know I am helping people. If you would like a reminder of the calendar, (I wrote about it recently here) watch this.

 

If you’d like your own calendar of affirmations, go to my shop here.

And right now there is a 20% OFF code!

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My most favorite thing about the vendor shows was talking to the people who stopped by my booth. I met some very interesting people!

One of the common threads of our conversations was that we all need to be encouraged, lifted up, and filled with positivity. That’s one reason I love what I do! Many people talked about how happy my booth made them feel. That everything was so cheerful and colorful. And I’m glad people felt that way, because I do too! I like that people were drawn to my booth. This world needs us to be a shining light that dispels the darkness. I’m doing that!

So today I got my trees up from the basement. Does that count as Christmas decorating? Not sure how much I’ll get done this year. I so love the look of my decorations, but do not care for the work of putting it all out. Where is that Samantha of Bewitched fame when you need her? Wish I could just wiggle my nose!

Well, I hear my bed calling my name.

I hope you have a great week ahead. May all your Christmas lights stay lit!!

Big hugs and sparkles,

Mimi

 

 

I Won!

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Today I defied the compulsion towards People Pleasing!! (A lifetime-long struggle.)

 

Yesterday was grueling for me.

 

I taught reading to reluctant kindergarteners for three hours,

 

went to an appointment,

 

returned home in time to get my son off the bus –his OCD meant he asked every few minutes if we were going to the book fair at his school,

 

took him (which means dragged him) to get a haircut (sensory overload),

 

and then to the book fair because I couldn’t handle another day of his asking,

 

picked up some dinner,

 

rushed home to help my daughter get dressed for her concert (which meant some raised voices because Anxiety Disorder and choir concerts don’t mix, and we also got to add in PMS so it was REAL fun!),

 

rushed to the concert (which was great!),

 

got my too-tired children into bed and myself soon after.

 

 

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This was followed by Monday night Trick-or-Treat which is a little challenging still because being on my feet a long time is difficult with the metal in my ankle (a 4″ plate and nine screws–read about it here),

 

and then Tuesday I climbed a ladder up and down for about 3 hours to clean my gutters of the slimy mess that had plugged them up (remember the ankle?).

 

Sooo, this morning my son woke me at 4 am, and my brain kicked on, of course.

He gets out early today, and I was supposed to work–a first occurence for me since I’ve retired.

I began to worry that something might happen to prevent my sitter from getting there,

and no one would be at home for him to get off the bus (he is special-needs and can’t be home alone),

and I’d be at school, and WHAT WOULD I DO?!!

 

When I got up at 5:45, I felt like a semi had run over me!

 

I have just begun working as an educational consultant at the school I retired from. There are many children struggling to learn to read and to reach grade level, so I am helping with small groups in a kindergarten classroom. I really wanted to stay home and switch work days to tomorrow (I am only working two days a week because of all the other things I do).

 

But what would the teacher I’m helping THINK of me? Would she think I’m some flighty person, unable to keep my committments? Is she depending on me for a specific thing today?

 

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I debated for a bit. But chose to take care of myself, regardless of what she thought. I found a way to leave her a message on her classroom phone and told her what I was doing. She messaged me that going in tomorrow was fine. (Really, she is a darling, and a friend, so I know–on this side of 4 a.m.–well kinda, that she would not have thought poorly of me!)

 

So I feel successful today, although a bit pooped.

Celebrations are in order. I did that. I went back to bed. 🙂

 

I hope y’all have a wonderful day, my friends. 

And hopefully not quite as full as mine have been!

Big hugs and sparkles!

Mimi

Tell Your Mama!

Has your mama been a shining light in YOUR life?

Has she guided you through

life’s tumultuous waves

and almost-drowning experiences?

 

and so she lit the way
Did she stretch out her hand for you to hold when fear made you tremble?
And open her arms widely

to receive and envelop you

when you were broken-hearted?

Did your mother support you

and encourage you to do that something scary

 that you really wanted to do?


you are absolutely fabulous

Did she clap wildly and smile widely

when you reached those difficult-to-achieve goals?

And thoroughly discuss the pros and cons of a challenging decision?

Did she show you how to live life,
and model unconditional love so you’d be able to?

You are amazing with a side of sprinkles

Then TELL her!

Mother’s Day is one of  the most important times

to give her a card, folks.

And WRITE in it all of your appreciation.

In your own handwriting, tell her thank you.

Tell her how much you love her (like she tells you).

Her heart was more tender

She will KEEP your cards

to read over and over.

 

And you will find them stored together

after she is gone. 

Why? Because she loves you

and your words matter.

 

Take it from a mama who knows.

 

Wishing those of you who are,

a Happy Mother’s Day!

Love and great, big hugs,

Passionista Mimi

 

P.S. If you are a bit word challenged, there is no shame in using someone else’s.

You can always search online for words to use.

Buy one of my Empowordment cards to get you started, then write a bit inside. 

You can do it, and your mama will be so happy!

When One of us Soars, We ALL Rise

When one of us soars we all rise.

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Warrior Soul Is Here!!

My friend Laura is the editor and author of an amazing collection of poems and artwork contributed by some talented creative souls entitled Warrior Soul A Journal to Inspire Your Fiercely Alive Whole Self. And guess what? I’M one of them!! My poem, “Windows”, is included in this book which is now published and available on Amazon!! I’m so excited!! I’m an author!! Well, I have been, but never published in a book, mostly magazines. Warrior Soul

You can find out more about this Journal on the Facebook page where there are pictures and poems from this book to “preview”. Quite a spectacular collection of heart-felt and soul-full poetry and art. 

Laura Probert is an amazing writer and  a real go-getter in the creative realm. You can follow her here.

 

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Being a part of this collaboration has been such an honor! I appreciate Laura giving me the opportunity. I also appreciate the hard work that went into organizing and publishing this collective work of art and am very thankful for that. And lookee here!! I’m on the back cover. Can you find me? (Hint: it’s the same as my picture on the right.)

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If you (or someone you know) love art, poetry, and/or journaling, this would be a delightful feast for the eyes and spirit to give yourself or someone on your list. PURCHASE a copy here.

Merry Christmas to ME–I get my copy on Monday!! Yay!

Hope your weekend is going well. 

Hugs and love, Passionista

Caitlyn The Conqueror

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I struggle with the reactions to, and opinions being expressed about, Caitlyn Jenner. I mean, a psychiatrist saying that being transgender is a mental disorder?  And saying that a tragedy occurred when Bruce Jenner died and Caitlyn was born? Such harsh words! I realize that being a public person opens her to more criticism and judgement than many. Perhaps she can also be helpful to those fearful to make a change in their own lives.

I believe that Caitlyn–like all of us–deserves the right to be the person whom she feels she was born to be. She deserves the right to live completely and fully, as do all people. It’s not given to all of us, nor is this right guaranteed. But Caitlyn has conquered some of her past and is intending to live without the constraints of being wrongly gender-identified.

As a Sexual Health Educator, and after much consideration, I believe that I’m suppocriticizing-quotes-4sed to write this post because prejudice often comes from fear of the unknown. Here is just a touch on the subject. Hopefully it will help alleviate the condemnation of Caitlyn and others struggling to live as the “wrong” gender.

As I began studying in 2010, I found interesting information regarding how our chromosomes pair and how that affects our sexual and gender identity. Science has definitely progressed in the study of genetics and, contrary to most of our education regarding gender–where it was believed that XX and XY were the only chromosonal pairings possible, it has been discovered that humans have many pairings, as many as 70!!. Our chromosomes affect how we feel about ourselves in regard to our gender, and obviously with as many as 70 different combinations there are quite a few of us who do not follow the “norm” as determined by Americans.

Also, issues may arise while the fetus is developing that influence the genital development. One of those issues, Intersex, is defined as a congenital anomaly of the reproductive and sexual system (where genitalia of both genders is present at birth). This article about gender and genetics from the World Health Organization states:

“The Intersex Initiative, a North-American based organization, estimates that one in 2,000 children, or five children per day in the United States, are born visibly intersex” making it difficult to assign a gender.

So as many as FIVE babies/day in America are possibly assigned the WRONG gender. By the time they can show preference and self-identify (at around 2 years old) they have been firmly entrenched in their gender “conditioning”.

I am a teacher, and I believe in using my own education to help people understand human gender/sexuality and hopefully delete bias from our lives. I truly believe many just do not understand. Perhaps you too could study and help inform people.

Thank you for reading!

Mimi, Passionista Doing My Best

If you would like to know how to speak and write about transgender people, this is a good article.

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