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Self-Care Is Love

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We put everyone and everything else first, at the expense of our health and spirit. Society has programmed us that way. Stop listening to the lies. You are enough already. MORE than enough.

 

You do not have to earn your way or work to deserve love (I learned this way too late in life) and there is nothing to prove.

 

You are amazing and capable and wonderful just the way you are.

 

Your job will be there (asking more and more).

 

Your house will be dirty anyway. Ask for help. Have a family meeting.

State your purpose and reason for taking some self time.

 

And KNOW that you don’t have to do it all.

 

At work, do a quality job, but don’t sacrifice your health and family and creative outlets to try and satisfy unrealistic demands and standards.

 

Respect yourself and others will too.

 

Darlin’, GO for that walk, to art class, out with friends, to yoga.

Take a long bath.

Paint, draw, color, shape, mold, sew, dig–whatever fills your creative spirit.

Say “no” more.

Give yourself space to breathe.

 

When we love ourselves, we love everyone else better.

That is all there is to it!!

 

By the way, I love you. (And I’m going to go do some stretches. Yay me!)

Thanks for visiting.

Love and hugs, Passionista

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What’s In A Word?

 

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The year is flying by and we are well into 2016. At this point, if we made New Year’s resolutions, about eighty percent of us will have abandoned them. That used to be me but I don’t set resolutions any more. I’ve adopted a different approach to help me focus on reaching important life changes, business goals, and spiritually-nourishing activities that I need in my life.

 

I now use the “Word Of The Year” as my guide. The program I use is by Carrie Saba who is a health and lifestyle coach.

 

I’m sure you have heard “What you focus on you become” and “You get what you focus on” most likely having realized these truths for yourself. So choosing to focus on one word will give you incredible intensity!

 

Here’s the deal. Words have energy. Words speak life. Choosing one word to envelop, sustain, and help create your life for a year will bring what you are focusing on into your life. It’s a simple yet powerful way to guide your actions, choices, and plans, and achieve change.

 

To read the rest of my article about this empowering way to set goals, and to receive a gift code for a FREE companion guide to choosing your own WOTY, visit Abrazine.com here. The gift code is available until March 31, so get over there and grab it!!

 

Until next time, may you shine your light for all to see!

Love and hugs, Passionista Mimi

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Bird Rules: A Lighthearted Correlation Between Birds and Humans

 

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Today I’m sharing my post on Aabrazine.
I love watching the birds outside my kitchen window, and they have actually taught me some things about life!

 

I hope this post delights you. And maybe you can take some time to watch the birds too.

 

Until next time,

love and hugs, Passionista

 

 

 

 

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This is Your Brain. This is Your Brain in Love.

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Can you imagine, and perhaps you really can, what it is like to experience that first, heart-exploding realization that someone actually loves you completely? Loves you without boundaries or restraint, regardless of your brokenness, emotional issues, and the truckloads of psychological stuff you carry with you? It is addictive to say the least.

 

Your mind returns again and again to thoughts of that person who loves you so unconditionally. Why? Because it feels marvelous. The endorphin rush you feel each time you realize that someone can actually love YOU (and all your quirkiness, your faults, and your issues that seem to make you relationally dysfunctional) is likened to that of a chemical rush to your brain.

 

Unconditional love is just that, no conditions attached. You are loved just because you are YOU. Not what you do. Not because of how good you are or how you look or sound or smell. Just because you are that amazing and unique package of YOU. Someone finds delight in the person of you. That is heady stuff…and you want more.

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I am blessed to have experienced this. For the first time in my life, no matter how weird I got, or dysfunctional, or disappointing I was, I was loved completely. This person didn’t see a need to change or reform me, to control my loud, hyper personality, my neediness, or insecurity. In fact, just the opposite happened. My new love actually celebrated and enjoyed the real me, told me wonderful things about myself I had not realized. And so, I became……addicted.

 

We have heard the phrases “addicted to love” and “love addiction”, and come to find out there is scientific truth to them. According to results found in a study done in 2000,

” The f(functional)MRI study also discovered that the part of brain associated with addiction was activated when participants were viewing pictures of the people they were in love with. This area is comprised of a very high concentration of dopamine receptors, a neurotransmitter which, among other things, is related to addiction. And certainly it is true that love and addiction bear some important similarities.”

See more here.

(The article goes on to speak about obsessive compulsion and acting a bit batty, but I’m trying to ignore those.)

This kind of love and acceptance brings a dopamine rush and can be full-out addicting! Love is indeed a wonderful “feel good” drug!

 

I’ve always been afraid to be completely real, somehow feeling that I wouldn’t be liked for who I really am. I’m pretty sure I became a people-pleaser while still in the womb, but that is a story for later. So when I was fully and completely accepted, with joy no less, it was a wonderful and beautiful balm to my wounded spirit. A balm that began to heal and nourish and “give my heart wings” enough to venture out of my self-imposed survival mode (which felt very much like a box). The fear of what others would think about me, how they would regard my true personality, began to fall away in the face of such acceptance and enjoyment of me.

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We are told that God has this kind of love for us but it’s hard to conceive if we’ve never experienced it. However, to receive unconditional love from a person, with skin on, someone we see, talk with and touch, gives us a much clearer picture of His love for us.

 

(Sidenote: Aside from romantic love, your unconditional love for people in your life can transform them. You can love unconditionally, celebrate uniqueness, and love the person for who they are, and no other reason. You can set someone’s heart free and give them the gift of believing in themselves.) 

 

I hope that if you haven’t yet, you will experience this kind of unconditional love. We all deserve it. I didn’t think I did. I settled for the other kind. It hurt. It stifled. It closed me up. But this kind of love? This love set me free.

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Do yourself and others a favor. Practice unconditional love. Your own life will be richer for it. 

 

Thanks for stopping by. I’d love it if you’d share. And leave a comment, would you please? I never know if anyone reads my posts. 🙂

Until next time, 

Hugs and love, Passionista

Inspiration

First You Must Trust Yourself

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First you must trust yourself…if you can’t, you may put too much weight on what others think or say. 

 

Everything you need is inside you.

Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

You are enough. You are capable.

You are fabulous.

Your own mind and heart know. Truly.

Just take the time to see and know

what’s inside of you. 

 

It’s actually pretty amazing!

 

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Why NOT Me?

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You should never feel as if you are insignificant and undeserving.

Dream that dream.

Set those goals before you.

Because, why shouldn’t you reach them?

You, as much as anyone you admire,

deserve the chance to do what your heart desires.

Yep, sometimes it takes a long time.

And it’s really, really tough.

But that is what makes the dream or goal valuable!

If it wasn’t hard and didn’t take a lot of investment,

if it was easy, would you value it as much?

Why NOT you?

Only you can set those limitations on yourself.

Think about it. 

Love and hugs, Passionista Mimi

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You’re Supposed To Be Afraid!

I just read an amazing post by Lori Fields of “Your Worthy Self”. She is such an inspiration to me, and I love that we work together in the trenches to help women realize how amazing, worthy, creative, capable, and enough they are.

She speaks of fear as that which helps us grow… “You no longer have to subscribe to the belief that being scared equals being weak. Fear is always part of the landscape when you’re trying to do great things.”

And that our lives NEED resistance to grow!!

My insert here is to think of the plant that has to push its way through the soil (sometimes very hard, packed earth) in order to grow into what it was created to be! Those plants are way stronger and mature and more beautiful than those seedlings that lay on top of the soil and grow spindly and weak.

“The thing you push against is the thing that lifts you up.” – Delta Airlines

“Pushing off against your fear is what allows you to become who you’ve always wanted to be.” 

Go to her post and read every. single. word! Let it teach and inspire you.

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I equate doing something you are afraid of as “jumping off the high dive”. Taking the plunge into the unknown. You never know unless you try. All those cliches people use that are true. And most usually, you will astound yourself. You may fly. You may discover something about yourself that you really like. And better yet, you will have pushed against the fear!

And THAT’s what I’m talkin’ about!! You ROCK!!

Love and flight, Passionista Mimi

Words To Help

We Can’t Give More Than What We Are

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Without giving ourselves compassion,

 we can’t be compassionate.

When we judge ourselves harshly,

we can’t be accepting.

If we feel that our lives lack,

we can’t give generously.

When we feel that we are not enough,

we can’t lift up and applaud others.

When we take ourselves too seriously,

we can’t enjoy life.

If we don’t love ourselves unconditionally,

we can’t truly love others without conditions.

If we aren’t honest with ourselves,

we can’t grow and change.

These are truths I’ve gleaned over the years

of re-inventing myself.

Of becoming the person I was truly created to be.

I believe JOY

Your life is amazing. If you are breathing, you have something to be grateful for. And gratefulness will create joy. It will bring abundance (I’m not talking monetary value, but the value of life, friends, and passions that fill your soul.)

And just in case you were wondering…..there is enough for all of us.

Enough love

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work

joy

adventure

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We have a tendency to view the world from our little worm hole

and think that we are never, ever going to be enough, have enough, or live enough.

I used to be like that.

Then I realized that there are billions of people. Millions of opportunities.

We live in a great big world.

And though you may not especially like your life right now, it can change.

Change is always possible.

Of course, it means conquering the limiting emotion of fear.

It means you have to stop lying to yourself. 

To change means becoming vulnerable.

YIKES!! No way! I can’t do it! I’m so afraid! It will hurt too much.

And what will happen to me?

Change will happen. Better will happen. Abundance will happen.

So will love, joy, adventure, assurance, confidence, and fulfillment.

I’m rooting for you, cheering you on as you make wise, healthy choices toward becoming more so you can give more.

For it’s in giving that we grow toward abundance.

Thank you for reading, and I hope you have a wonderful week.

Love and hugs, Passionista

Inspiration

Why Not You?

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I hope you never feel as if you are insignificant.

Dream that dream.

Set those goals before you.

Because, why shouldn’t you reach them?

You, as much as anyone you admire,

deserve the chance to do what your heart desires.

Yep, sometimes it takes a long time.

And it’s really, really tough.

But that is what makes the dream or goal valuable!

If it didn’t cost a lot, if it was easy,

would you value it as much?

Why NOT you?

Only you can set those limitations on yourself.

Keep dreaming and doing and reaching, my friend!!

I’m here with you!

Passionista Mimi