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I Won!

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Today I defied the compulsion towards People Pleasing!! (A lifetime-long struggle.)

 

Yesterday was grueling for me.

 

I taught reading to reluctant kindergarteners for three hours,

 

went to an appointment,

 

returned home in time to get my son off the bus –his OCD meant he asked every few minutes if we were going to the book fair at his school,

 

took him (which means dragged him) to get a haircut (sensory overload),

 

and then to the book fair because I couldn’t handle another day of his asking,

 

picked up some dinner,

 

rushed home to help my daughter get dressed for her concert (which meant some raised voices because Anxiety Disorder and choir concerts don’t mix, and we also got to add in PMS so it was REAL fun!),

 

rushed to the concert (which was great!),

 

got my too-tired children into bed and myself soon after.

 

 

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This was followed by Monday night Trick-or-Treat which is a little challenging still because being on my feet a long time is difficult with the metal in my ankle (a 4″ plate and nine screws–read about it here),

 

and then Tuesday I climbed a ladder up and down for about 3 hours to clean my gutters of the slimy mess that had plugged them up (remember the ankle?).

 

Sooo, this morning my son woke me at 4 am, and my brain kicked on, of course.

He gets out early today, and I was supposed to work–a first occurence for me since I’ve retired.

I began to worry that something might happen to prevent my sitter from getting there,

and no one would be at home for him to get off the bus (he is special-needs and can’t be home alone),

and I’d be at school, and WHAT WOULD I DO?!!

 

When I got up at 5:45, I felt like a semi had run over me!

 

I have just begun working as an educational consultant at the school I retired from. There are many children struggling to learn to read and to reach grade level, so I am helping with small groups in a kindergarten classroom. I really wanted to stay home and switch work days to tomorrow (I am only working two days a week because of all the other things I do).

 

But what would the teacher I’m helping THINK of me? Would she think I’m some flighty person, unable to keep my committments? Is she depending on me for a specific thing today?

 

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I debated for a bit. But chose to take care of myself, regardless of what she thought. I found a way to leave her a message on her classroom phone and told her what I was doing. She messaged me that going in tomorrow was fine. (Really, she is a darling, and a friend, so I know–on this side of 4 a.m.–well kinda, that she would not have thought poorly of me!)

 

So I feel successful today, although a bit pooped.

Celebrations are in order. I did that. I went back to bed. 🙂

 

I hope y’all have a wonderful day, my friends. 

And hopefully not quite as full as mine have been!

Big hugs and sparkles!

Mimi

Inspiration

Be The Light (Guest Post)

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I was born to shine

BE THE LIGHT

Social media.

A discussion had taken place on Facebook. A political one (shocker!). And I found myself getting sucked into it.

My engagement in it was minimal, but the effect it was having on me was significant. I allowed it to suck me in, to take me to a place that felt very dark. It left me feeling confused, fearful and isolated.

As I stood there at my kitchen sink, washing up the last of the dinner dishes, I realized that I was giving power to this darkness by permitting it to invade my mind and my spirit.

And that’s when I felt the gentle voice of my Heavenly Father reminding me of the truth. The truth of His sovereignty and what He is calling me to be in this temporary world of mine.

He is calling me to be light.

So, when I was approached by my dear friend Deborah of Salvage Sister and Mister to join the challenge to be the light in the ever growing dark world and confusing world of social media, I didn’t hesitate to say yes!

***During the week of Nov 1-8, 8 bloggers will share their stories and encouragement to be the light in the darkness.***

The purpose of the ‘Be the Light Challenge’ is to encourage~

  • How to share opinions (political or not) in a Godly manner

  • How to guard our hearts and minds

  • How to deal with conflict online

  • Setting limits/boundaries (1 Corinthians 6:12)

  • Encouraging/building others up

  • Fruits of the Spirit

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Visit her blog post for the links to other bloggers that are helping us through the darkness. I’m really glad they are doing this.

Perhaps you’d like to shine YOUR light too. Think about it.

Big hugs and sparkles and lotsa LIGHT!!

Mimi

 

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A Fun Video

 

 

 

I am not a DIYer. Well, not much. But THIS lady is amazing!!

This is Marian, aka Miss Mustard Seed, a wife, mother, lover of all things home and an accidental entrepreneur, author, freelance writer & photographer.mms

I’ve been following her for several years and I just love her! She is on her way to Luckett’s Market where she is selling her beautifully refurbished and restored furniture and all the other items she collects to sell. I SO enjoyed watching them pack the truck to transport the 50+ furnitue items and “smalls”. I thought I’d share it with you because it’s phenomenal packing skill at it’s BEST!! And as a pretty skilled packer myself, I bow in awe of this!!

If you are limited on time, scroll to the bottom of the post and watch the packing video. If you’d like to learn a bit more (I’m always so very curious) enjoy the post. You can read and see it all here.

Goodnesss watching that just makes me laugh!! And tired. Is it nap time yet?

Hope y’all have a glorious weekend!

Love, hugs, and sparkles.

Passionista Mimi

 

 

 

Living With Gusto

Are You Making Numb Choices?

You have the power to choose!It seems we are always hearing how important focus is to reaching our goals and bringing our desires to us. However, sometimes our focus is totally off. We work hard, do what we think we should, spin our wheels, and run faster on the hamster wheel, only to remain stagnant.

 

Why do you suppose this is? Well, one possibility is that when we are determining our focus, our brains are actually numb. If you want to read a funny story that illustrates this point, go here.

 

While somewhat “asleep” we are fully intent and focused on carrying out our daily lives, getting to the “other side”, even attempting to achieve goals or dreams.

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Sometimes, our minds and hearts have become numb and we are making decisions based on survival, rather than fully living.
I’ll share with you 5 reasons I think we become numb, and 4 ideas of how to awaken in my article here.

I hope you will read it and take to heart the joy of living fully alive!

Love and growth!
Passionista

Living With Gusto

The Lies That Bind Us

 

You were created for a purpose

and are amazing,

creative,

valuable,

and productive.

YOU were born to shine!!

I was born to shine

Do you believe that? Or do you struggle to believe that you were born to shine because instead you believe lies about yourself? Perhaps lies like you are stupid, unlovable, you will never amount to anything, you are ugly, or you are worthless.

If so, these lies are the result of believing negative things you have felt or that people have said about you. Many of us have done that and are now full of hurt and feel broken.

So what do I mean when I say “lies”?

 

Lies are thoughts or the words and actions of others that cause us to behave in a self-defeating or destructive way. Lies are limiting because they create FEAR and hold us back.

I describe fear as

Firmly Encouraging and Allowing Rubbish.

When we listen to all that rubbish going on in our brain it’s impossible to be our real, true selves. Most likely we haven’t been taught about how thought processes work so we continue to believe rubbish about ourselves. It piles up over the years until we have a whole ton of garbage that weighs us down. My goal is to help you, in a simplified way, understand how our thoughts can work against us.

The lies we believe during our formative years set us up to believe lies as adults. By the time we become adults we are firmly entrenched in this belief system which affects how we consider ourselves.

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Belief Determines Behavior

So how do we change our belief system so we can change our behavior?

Find out how by reading my article here.

 

If you’d like to read my first post on this subject (because it’s one that is dear to my heart), find it here.

 

May your life be blessed as you incorporate these ideas to help you live with fullness and freedom from the fear that binds.

Love and big hugs along this journey,

Passionista

 

Inspiration

I Hope You Blew It!

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I hope you have messed up really big. At least once in your life. Better yet, a whole bunch of messes. Mistakes. Wrong choices. Foot-in-your-mouth embarrassment and falling down onstage kinds of messing up.

And please don’t think I’m mean, but I really hope that life has given you lemons. And disappointments. And some really hard times to work through.

Now before you think me cruel-hearted, stay with me a bit. I have some things to say about why struggles and challenges in our life are a good thing. This is truly a Motivational Monday post and you can read the rest here.   

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And if something I said helped you (because that is what this is for, actually) go ahead and share it with someone who needs it too! I’d be ever so grateful! Spread the word!

Love and hugs,

Passionista Mimi

 

 

 

 

Living With Gusto

What’s In A Word?

 

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The year is flying by and we are well into 2016. At this point, if we made New Year’s resolutions, about eighty percent of us will have abandoned them. That used to be me but I don’t set resolutions any more. I’ve adopted a different approach to help me focus on reaching important life changes, business goals, and spiritually-nourishing activities that I need in my life.

 

I now use the “Word Of The Year” as my guide. The program I use is by Carrie Saba who is a health and lifestyle coach.

 

I’m sure you have heard “What you focus on you become” and “You get what you focus on” most likely having realized these truths for yourself. So choosing to focus on one word will give you incredible intensity!

 

Here’s the deal. Words have energy. Words speak life. Choosing one word to envelop, sustain, and help create your life for a year will bring what you are focusing on into your life. It’s a simple yet powerful way to guide your actions, choices, and plans, and achieve change.

 

To read the rest of my article about this empowering way to set goals, and to receive a gift code for a FREE companion guide to choosing your own WOTY, visit Abrazine.com here. The gift code is available until March 31, so get over there and grab it!!

 

Until next time, may you shine your light for all to see!

Love and hugs, Passionista Mimi

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Living With Gusto

Bird Rules: A Lighthearted Correlation Between Birds and Humans

 

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Today I’m sharing my post on Aabrazine.
I love watching the birds outside my kitchen window, and they have actually taught me some things about life!

 

I hope this post delights you. And maybe you can take some time to watch the birds too.

 

Until next time,

love and hugs, Passionista

 

 

 

 

Living With Gusto

This is Your Brain. This is Your Brain in Love.

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Can you imagine, and perhaps you really can, what it is like to experience that first, heart-exploding realization that someone actually loves you completely? Loves you without boundaries or restraint, regardless of your brokenness, emotional issues, and the truckloads of psychological stuff you carry with you? It is addictive to say the least.

 

Your mind returns again and again to thoughts of that person who loves you so unconditionally. Why? Because it feels marvelous. The endorphin rush you feel each time you realize that someone can actually love YOU (and all your quirkiness, your faults, and your issues that seem to make you relationally dysfunctional) is likened to that of a chemical rush to your brain.

 

Unconditional love is just that, no conditions attached. You are loved just because you are YOU. Not what you do. Not because of how good you are or how you look or sound or smell. Just because you are that amazing and unique package of YOU. Someone finds delight in the person of you. That is heady stuff…and you want more.

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I am blessed to have experienced this. For the first time in my life, no matter how weird I got, or dysfunctional, or disappointing I was, I was loved completely. This person didn’t see a need to change or reform me, to control my loud, hyper personality, my neediness, or insecurity. In fact, just the opposite happened. My new love actually celebrated and enjoyed the real me, told me wonderful things about myself I had not realized. And so, I became……addicted.

 

We have heard the phrases “addicted to love” and “love addiction”, and come to find out there is scientific truth to them. According to results found in a study done in 2000,

” The f(functional)MRI study also discovered that the part of brain associated with addiction was activated when participants were viewing pictures of the people they were in love with. This area is comprised of a very high concentration of dopamine receptors, a neurotransmitter which, among other things, is related to addiction. And certainly it is true that love and addiction bear some important similarities.”

See more here.

(The article goes on to speak about obsessive compulsion and acting a bit batty, but I’m trying to ignore those.)

This kind of love and acceptance brings a dopamine rush and can be full-out addicting! Love is indeed a wonderful “feel good” drug!

 

I’ve always been afraid to be completely real, somehow feeling that I wouldn’t be liked for who I really am. I’m pretty sure I became a people-pleaser while still in the womb, but that is a story for later. So when I was fully and completely accepted, with joy no less, it was a wonderful and beautiful balm to my wounded spirit. A balm that began to heal and nourish and “give my heart wings” enough to venture out of my self-imposed survival mode (which felt very much like a box). The fear of what others would think about me, how they would regard my true personality, began to fall away in the face of such acceptance and enjoyment of me.

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We are told that God has this kind of love for us but it’s hard to conceive if we’ve never experienced it. However, to receive unconditional love from a person, with skin on, someone we see, talk with and touch, gives us a much clearer picture of His love for us.

 

(Sidenote: Aside from romantic love, your unconditional love for people in your life can transform them. You can love unconditionally, celebrate uniqueness, and love the person for who they are, and no other reason. You can set someone’s heart free and give them the gift of believing in themselves.) 

 

I hope that if you haven’t yet, you will experience this kind of unconditional love. We all deserve it. I didn’t think I did. I settled for the other kind. It hurt. It stifled. It closed me up. But this kind of love? This love set me free.

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Do yourself and others a favor. Practice unconditional love. Your own life will be richer for it. 

 

Thanks for stopping by. I’d love it if you’d share. And leave a comment, would you please? I never know if anyone reads my posts. 🙂

Until next time, 

Hugs and love, Passionista

Living With Gusto

How Are You Shining?

Hello, friends! It’s been a while, I know. I hope this finds you well and shining your light!

I wanted to share with you my post on Abrazine.com.

I will be guest-posting there bi-monthly on Mondays. 

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Click on over there and read my take on how to live our lives.

And while you are there, sign up to receive these posts in your email.

Soon, I hope to catch you up on what has been going on in my life.

Rollercoaster emotions for sure!

Love and hugs, Passionista