A Beauty Experiment

Creams, lotions, injections, surgery,

new clothes, exfoliation, fillers…

What if everything you need to feel more beautiful is INSIDE you?

Watch this video before you read further.


 It totally intrigued me and prompted this post.

Feeling Beautiful Starts in your mind


So what do you think? Have you ever just decided to believe that you are beautiful? Imagine if what these women experienced could happen to you! Did you notice how their facial expressions became brighter and more open?

It has been said that the most beautiful thing you can wear is your smile. The reason behind that is it lifts up everything about you. Maybe it starts with a smile. And then it grows to being more positive, and then it grows to feeling better about yourself, and finally to realizing that you are, indeed, a uniquely beautiful person. Aren’t you tired of media telling us we are not–unless we buy their products, or wear their clothes, drive their car, and on and on until it just makes us sick. Yes, sick. That we would hate our bodies, and how we look, to me is like a sickness.

If you seriously dislike your appearance, there are small things you can do to alter that. A good haircut, for instance, can make me feel like a million bucks! And don’t forget makeup. Currently, it seems to be the decision of many women to go without makeup, and that is great if it fits their lifestyle. I know that I feel better with at least mascara and lipstick. And when you highlight your eyes, your face automatically appears brighter and more open, which are positive traits when communicating with others. Visit the makeup counter at department stores for free makeup consultations if you’d like help with this.


Anyway, I digress…what if we hate the physical traits that we were given? SO not cool!! How sad to hate what makes your lovely face uniquely yours! Thankfully, being my age has given me a sense of freedom about how I look, though I now fixate on my wrinkles-ugh. But I did go through agony (yes, agony) about my appearance (nose too long, chin too round, etc). I have never fit the popular image of what was beautiful for our culture at the time.


I grew up with Twiggy (a model from London, aptly named, very popular in the seventies) for goodness sake!

Decades before the anorexic models we see now.

And have I mentioned how I felt about my body? Really, really not good! Sadly, I realize from photos that I WAS beautiful as a young adult and just did not accept the fact. I kept comparing and judging and hating my appearance. Because I wasn’t the petite cheerleader type (I was 5′ 10″), didn’t have the surfer girl blonde hair, didn’t have boobs, did have hips and thighs, and on and on. WHY do we waste our energy disliking, instead of owning, our beauty?

A lot can be learned from “people watching”. Perhaps you have seen her–the woman who carries her head high, has a confident stride, has an open expression on her face. She acts as if she owns the world. She has confidence. You can believe that she feels beautiful. But as you look more closely, her looks and body are ordinary. Not eye-catching by any means. It’s more in her attitude and how she carries herself. Perhaps she is thinking, “I’m beautiful and I know it!”

On the other hand, you may have seen a woman with head down, eyes downcast, scurrying mouse-like through the crowds, her hair covering most of her face. And when she looked up so you could catch her full face, she was quite lovely. Maybe you thought to yourself, “Why does she hide her beauty?” {I am very aware there are many reasons a woman may hide and I address some of these in another post (http://particularpassions.me/2014/02/04/the-great-recycler)}. But apart from that, it might just be that she doesn’t like her looks so she keeps them covered.

Changing one’s idea of personal beauty can take time. Part of it is habit. Your brain just follows the habitual self-criticism it always has, perhaps even modeled by generations of women in our lives. Most of us struggle with desiring a better-looking face and/or body. But what if….

we began the habit of realizing our beauty and thinking as if we are! (Because you ARE!! I know it from a very personal moment with God in 1991 when He told me:

I Have NO ugly daughters

and I never forgot it.)


How would your life change if you realized you were beautiful? If when you walked through the grocery store your head was high and there was a bounce in your step (I know, this seems like pure fantasy, because…the grocery store?)

Ok how about this? You are looking for a special dress (aargh this one trips ME up!) and you just can’t find one that is perfect for you. Instead of thinking “I’m just so ugly, out of shape, have a stupid body” we think, “I know there is a dress for me to match my amazing personality and awesomeness. I’ll just need to keep looking.” I actually pray about finding clothes. I think God realizes how traumatic it’s been for me! (He helps me too!)

Or as you sit at your job you remind yourself that you are beautiful and it makes you smile? Or you go into a party or a meeting knowing that you are awesome and you sparkle? (I know this works first hand because people comment on how happy I seem, or how nice I look. If you want to get noticed, act happy and smile a lot!)

To form the habit of loving ourselves and actually liking the way we look will take practice. You will need to accept that you are awesome, amazing, unique, and quite lovely. Toward that end, I encourage you to repeat daily, several times,

“I am beautiful and I know it!”

and then let me know how it goes! I’m eager to hear from you.

Happy day, beautiful one! Love and hugs, Passionista Mimi



I’d love to read your comments/suggestions/experiences! Please take a moment to leave a comment. I look so forward to reading them!



15 Uplifting Photos From the Boston Marathon

“Boston Strong!” What an amazing comeback! I wonder what was going through the minds of those who participated and those who cheered. Whatever it was, there was definitely a positive attitude that carried those runners. Thanks to Mashable for these photos!

“With the second-largest number of entrants in its history, the 2014 Boston Marathon was more than just a race — it was a comeback.

One year after the bombings, runners and spectators alike exemplified “Boston Strong,” a motto the city unofficially adopted in 2013. Survivors completed the race and joined each other at the finish line. An American man won for the first time since 1983, and there was at least one wedding proposal.”


boston marathon 2 Boston marathon

Be sure to click on the link to read the captions under these photos. Two of my favorites!

Yay Boston! Yay American Spirit! Yay Runners!

I Got Published…No Joke!



Poetry I wrote while going through some

very tough years has just been published!

Eeeeek I’m so excited!

You can find it in the e-magazine

Abra-Zine at:



I’m excited to share these poems! If anything can come from the hurt, struggle, desperation, brokenness and growth of those years, and if anyone can be inspired or helped, I will be blessed!

It would cause me great delight to have you on my email list. Click on the “Follow” at the bottom of the page.  (It’s more fun to write to actual people, you know?)

And as always, I’d love it if you would share with your peeps! Hugs and love, Passionista Mimi

Women On Fire!

I belong to a group of amazing women–the brain-and-heart-child of a fireball named Debbie Phillips. It’s called Women On Fire.

“What is Women On Fire? Women on Fire provides support for your dreams, strategies for your goals and inspiration for your passions.It is a powerful community of women who support one another in their greatest ambitions and toughest transitions.

Life and executive coach Debbie Phillips started Women on Fire in 2003 after noticing how her hardworking, successful coaching clients suffered from isolation. She decided to bring them together. Immediately, they loved being able to meet each other and share what they were “on fire” about. Soon, they asked for their friends to be included … and their mothers and sisters and daughters and colleagues … and on and on it went. Now, thousands of women are part of the Women on Fire circle of connection and support.

Our hope is that through the connections you make, the stories you hear, the wisdom you gain, and the love that you feel, you can lead the life you have always envisioned for yourself. ” http://www.womenonfire.com/

There are several ways that YOU can be a part of them too!

Join  for inspiration, strategies and support

from Debbie Phillips and Friends!


Today I want to share a BOOK that is just awesome! It’s WOF’s second volume, actually.

Women on Fire Volume 2: 21 Inspiring Women Share Their Life Secrets

(and Save You Years of Struggle!)

Buy it here….http://www.amazon.com/Women-Fire-Inspiring-Secrets-Struggle/dp/0989367606/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1395921032&sr=1-2&keywords=women+on+fire

“In this inspiring and illuminating collection, 20 accomplished women share the stories of their most hard-won battles. They have lived through adversity and come out on the other side, happier, healthier and infinitely stronger.”

If you are in need of a bit of inspiration, or just seeing that others have survived life’s messes and challenges (we ALL have them), this is a great read for you! Actually, you will probably want to buy them both. 


Women on Fire

She Caused A Mind-Shift

The first problem is to unlearn. Gloria Steinem

It’s her birthday. Celebrate her.

Celebrate WOMEN!


At the time Gloria began her fight toward equal rights for women, she feels that people believed our rights were gender roles dictated by biology, God, or something. But now most people, Americans at least, know that humans deserve equal rights and treatment. It’s a total mind-shift from the seventies. There is still a lot of room for growth and improvement regarding how equality for women is implemented, but at least there is recognition of women’s right to have it.

Are You Impressive?

Imagine our world

The people around us, the ones we live with, come in daily contact with, and new acquaintances, will flourish if we consistently accomplish these “tasks”. And they are so easy! Such a little effort with a huge impact. People struggle to have a place in life. They feel lost in our world. Life moves too fast. There is too much–too much of so much!

Imagine taking a few extra seconds…seconds that have a big impact on another person. Look into their eyes, actually listen to what they are saying, put your phone DOWN, smile at them. They will feel “noticed” in this great big world. And who knows? Just that little act may ward off loneliness or even despondency–and that gives it a whole lot of worth.

So this is my take on impressing people. If you create a connection that makes them feel valued, they WILL remember you. For some other ways to be impressive, read the article that prompted this post…



This Is What Eighty Looks Like

Gloria Steinem

ON Tuesday, Gloria Steinem turns 80.

Do not bother to call. She’s planning to celebrate in Botswana. “I thought: ‘What do I really want to do on my birthday?’ First, get out of Dodge. Second, ride elephants.”

Very few people have aged as publicly. It’s been four decades since she told a reporter, “This is what 40 looks like.”…….

Read more about this fascinating woman who has valiantly fought against discrimination of women for six decades. She is truly someone who believes in the empowerment of women (and all people). This is a great article about her.


Strong People Do WHAT?

strong people

“Strong people don’t put other people down…They lift them up.
The more you encourage others the more positive and enthusiastic you will become.”  Zig Ziglar

This has been true in my own life! When you help others find their calling, their fulfillment, your own life blooms. Encourage others in the midst of their doubt or failings and you lift your own heart. Give to others of your resources and your life prospers. When you walk alongside someone in the midst of their difficult journey, your own journey is lighter.

I highly encourage you to try this if it’s not already your nature. Burdens are lighter when divided. Walk a mile in someone’s shoes by walking beside them, lifting them along the way. Your life can only be made richer for it.

Love and hugs, Passionista Mimi

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I’m Alive (Life Sounds Like) – YouTube – Michael Franti & Spearhead

To get you up and moving today!

Life sounds like, “I’m alive,

I’m alive, I’m alive!”

Oh yeah! You are alive

and doing it well!

Live with passion, and boldness,

and throw all the paint on life’s

canvas that you can!

Because we only live once,

but if you do it right,

it’s enough!

Enjoy your day~and whistle

while you work!

Hugs and love, Passionista Mimi


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#GirlsCan: Women Empowerment

#GirlsCan: Women Empowerment | COVERGIRL – YouTube.

I sure can identify with this video. I know it’s promoting a product. But I really like it!

Why? Because~

I was told I can’t be so loud.

I can’t dance.

I can’t touch people so much.

I can’t love like that.

I can’t have feelings of anger.

I can’t do things right.

I can’t have–or even ask for–what I want.

I can’t dress like that.

I can’t say those things.

But guess what?

I cna i will I did I do

I AM, I CAN, and I DO! I say that with pride of accomplishment! With the feeling of freedom under my wings. I say that with all the gusto and bravo I can muster, because each breath of being the real ME, the one that is noisy, loud, active, passionate, who loves to touch people, and love people……

THAT LADY…that PASSIONISTA…..THIS one right here? I have earned the right to BE, through blood, sweat, and oceans of tears!!

And I gotta say, as I take deep, life-giving breaths into my giddy-with-freedom body….



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