A Blue Christmas?

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Several years back, my first Christmas as a single mom with my closest family members nine hours away was difficult, to say the least. By the next year, with a bit of experience, my coping skills had improved.

On Christmas day, I booked a room at a hotel in a wonderful touristy town close to us. We pretty much had the place to ourselves!

We ate Christmas dinner with many others at a German-style restaurant–one of the most popular in Michigan. Doing so gave me a sense of family, and the whole experience was festive.

Afterward my children swam until they were exhausted, I read a bit and relaxed, there was a lot of laughter and my children felt very special (it was our first overnight in a hotel together–ever!).

Making these plans to help us through a very difficult time was one of the best decisions I’ve made. As part of the “package” we shopped at the world-famous Bronner’s where each of us chose two ornaments to remember our special time.

 

My friend Lani Catherine has written some ways to help alleviate the “blues” at Christmas, and they are good ones. Take a peek at her post as a resource for yourself or a friend. I’m going to save it to revisit next year.

Read it here….“Holidays Got You Blue?” 

 

My wish for you is that your Christmas time is full of joy and love and health. That is always my wish for you!

Remember that you have a very special light all your own, and that our world needs you!

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Shine on, my friends! Merry Christmas!

Love and Sprinkles, Passionista

 

 

When One of us Soars, We ALL Rise

When one of us soars we all rise.

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Warrior Soul Is Here!!

My friend Laura is the editor and author of an amazing collection of poems and artwork contributed by some talented creative souls entitled Warrior Soul A Journal to Inspire Your Fiercely Alive Whole Self. And guess what? I’M one of them!! My poem, “Windows”, is included in this book which is now published and available on Amazon!! I’m so excited!! I’m an author!! Well, I have been, but never published in a book, mostly magazines. Warrior Soul

You can find out more about this Journal on the Facebook page where there are pictures and poems from this book to “preview”. Quite a spectacular collection of heart-felt and soul-full poetry and art. 

Laura Probert is an amazing writer and  a real go-getter in the creative realm. You can follow her here.

 

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Being a part of this collaboration has been such an honor! I appreciate Laura giving me the opportunity. I also appreciate the hard work that went into organizing and publishing this collective work of art and am very thankful for that. And lookee here!! I’m on the back cover. Can you find me? (Hint: it’s the same as my picture on the right.)

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If you (or someone you know) love art, poetry, and/or journaling, this would be a delightful feast for the eyes and spirit to give yourself or someone on your list. PURCHASE a copy here.

Merry Christmas to ME–I get my copy on Monday!! Yay!

Hope your weekend is going well. 

Hugs and love, Passionista

EmPOWordment Cards by Mimi

Reposting a year later!! It’s been quite the adventure. I would love it if you “favorited” my shop on Etsy to help Google find me better. Thanks loves.

Particular Passions~Blog for Passionista At Large

Perhaps you’ve noticed I’ve been a bit MIA lately. Hmmm?

Well one thing for sure, I haven’t posted in a while. You see, I’ve been just a tad busy. 

“Doing what?” you may ask. SOOO glad you did! Because I have an announcement to make!!

TaDaaaaa!! Presenting~~~~~

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Say WHAAAT? What kind of word is “EmPOWordment”, anyway?

It’s a Mimi kind of word. It means

words that empower and encourage“!

And that is the kind of person I am. My goal is to help you empower and encourage others too, because, for goodness sake, we NEED it these days!!

You are amazing with a side of sprinkles

As Passionista At Large (my speaking-for-events business) my goal is to uplift, empower, inspire, ignite, inform, and give hugs to as many women (and some men too) as I possibly can. Thus, I signed up for a vendor show,

to “get myself out there”.

As I pondered how to draw…

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First You Must Trust Yourself

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First you must trust yourself…if you can’t, you may put too much weight on what others think or say. 

 

Everything you need is inside you.

Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

You are enough. You are capable.

You are fabulous.

Your own mind and heart know. Truly.

Just take the time to see and know

what’s inside of you. 

 

It’s actually pretty amazing!

 

Our Girls Are Not A “Distraction”!

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I read this article today about how female high school students are being told to leave the classroom for wearing “inappropriate” clothing that violates the school dress code. However, in many cases the reason why their clothing is offensive isn’t given. Sounds like discrimination and a real power-play to me.  It’s scary how much power some teachers have (I taught for 31 years so I am not teacher-bashing).

These students are being told they are too much of a distraction (especially to the male students). So let me get this right. A young woman’s “distraction” is so much worse than her missing classes that she is asked to leave (and that’s not humiliating at all) until someone can bring her more appropriate clothing to wear? This, for some, would mean missing all day of classes!!  Do you see what’s wrong here? According to the article, many of these young women weren’t dressing inappropriately on purpose. Many didn’t even know that what they were wearing was offensive!

Just wow. The comments below the article from parents whose girls have been disciplined are heartbreaking (a little girl in FIRST GRADE! And in one school girls can’t  even show their collar bones). Sounds like another way to control females.

It would seem that not much has changed in the decades of pursuing freedom and empowerment of women. Nope, we have NOT “come a long way baby”. Girls are still treated as “less than” boys. And for teens? Excuse me? It’s hormones. No matter what a girl wears at that age, she will distract the boys. And vice versa. Duh.

But this part truly concerns and angers me: her pants are “too tight and are distracting the male teachers”. Good golly. If the man doesn’t have enough control and decency to not leer and become aroused over a young girl, then get OUT of teaching, especially with teenagers. THAT right there is an indictment of our society. It demonstrates the lack of  self-control, accountability, and moral principles. Dress codes, and thus discrimination of girls, gives power to this lack, enabling attacks on girls (and all females). Again, the man is the one at fault here, not the young woman.

I do believe that girls need to respect themselves and love who they are, just as our boys do. I hope this includes not using their body to manipulate others and gain popularity. But regardless of their self-esteem, girls should have as much freedom to dress as their male peers. And we should be teaching “body respect” to our boys as well as our girls. Make it the male’s responsibility too. Teach mental and physical self-control.

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Although many families educate their young men to act responsibly and have a respectful attitude toward females, these codes define all males as cave men just waiting to pounce on a young girl’s body, unfairly categorizing all boys and men as uncontrollable perverts. Really? It’s another lie that propagates dysfunctional behaviors toward females–in fact excuses it with the abhorrent “boys will be boys” entitling belief, which continues to make it the female’s responsibility for the male’s inexcusable behavior, as in rape. And so it continues, even though we are waging war continuously against our world’s “rape culture”.

These dress codes–and the control over young women they allow–need to be taken under serious scrutiny. It’s time we are DONE with this discrimination and regard our girls as the intelligent, creative, and deserving participants of our society they are. Get OVER it!!

After writing my post I searched for images to include and found many articles about this subject. Here are a couple links if you are interested. There are many more.

http://goodmenproject.com/ethics-values/mkdn-the-distracted-boys-of-the-dress-code-wars/

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3255437/High-school-girls-wear-scarlet-letters-clothes-protest-sexist-objectifying-dress-code-unfairly-targets-female-students.html

 

So what are your thoughts on this? Perhaps our schools will all begin wearing uniforms. That is one solution. Any ideas?

I know this wasn’t my usual “feel-good” post, but thanks for stopping by. Promote equality!

Hugs, Passionista Mimi

 

 

Gratitude~Veteran’s Day

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We should never, ever take for granted

the freedoms we have, and the Americans

who have given sacrificially to guard them.

My heartfelt thanks goes to every soldier

who has ever served

and to those who are still serving.

My daddy was in the Korean War,

and my uncle was present in WWII,

on February 23, 1945

when the flag was raised on Iwo Jima. 

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The account of raising the flag is quite incredible.

My uncle was was one of the fortunate who survived. Pretty amazing.

On this Veteran’s Day, and all through the years,

let’s remember those who are working valiantly

to ensure our freedom remains intact. 

And if you can, hug a veteran.

We truly owe them our lives. 

 

Thanks for visiting today.

Big hugs! Passionista Mimi

 

Why NOT Me?

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You should never feel as if you are insignificant and undeserving.

Dream that dream.

Set those goals before you.

Because, why shouldn’t you reach them?

You, as much as anyone you admire,

deserve the chance to do what your heart desires.

Yep, sometimes it takes a long time.

And it’s really, really tough.

But that is what makes the dream or goal valuable!

If it wasn’t hard and didn’t take a lot of investment,

if it was easy, would you value it as much?

Why NOT you?

Only you can set those limitations on yourself.

Think about it. 

Love and hugs, Passionista Mimi

Invisible Illness Week

To participate in Invisible Illness Week, my friend, Shai Ford, has written openly, emotionally, and with great vulnerability about what it is like to live with not one, but two, illnesses that are “invisible” to people, meaning their symptoms are not easily seen.

I am sharing her post today because we need to be more aware. We need to give support to our friends and loved ones who suffer (and yes they do suffer). So many diseases have huge support of the public because their symptoms are highly visible. And yet, “invisible” illnesses are just as debilitating, but not as fully-supported because we lack awareness.

So, she has written to obtain support. To get the knowledge out there. To express her life. So that we can know that:

“It’s picking up your cell phone (or a glass of tea, a dish, a pile of laundry, or anything else a mom, wife, or business owner may pick up), and watching it hit the ground before you realize you didn’t actually have it in your hand.

It’s wanting to spend time with people, but not wanting to explain that a 15 minute drive for coffee simply hurts. 

It’s having a great hatred for spoon-sucking grocery stores…because driving, and cold, and carrying, and lifting, and everything someone with RA doesn’t want to do all in a short period of time.

It’s completely avoiding sitting on the couch or laying down with the kids because a) You’re not sure you can get back up and b) You know you have the ability to fall asleep in .2 seconds.

It’s being completely exhausted by something as simple as changing clothes or taking a shower.”

to just show you a small excerpt from her post.

It would be truly wonderful if you could take a few moments and read her post….all the way through the list of 30 things. And grasp at understanding. Walk a mile in her shoes for just a moment. And if you know someone with a debilitating-though-invisible condition, give them understanding and hugs (gentle-pressured ones). Let them know you are available for whatever they need, for instance:
*Help with grocery buying. Carry them in and put them away.

*Take some time with the children so your friend can just sleep.

*Be available to escort/drive for errands so the stress of driving is less.

*Make meals, set them up, help serve, clean up after. Because the spouses/significant others are often stressed to the max too.

*Do yard work. Clean their house. Do laundry. Just think of all the tasks we do on a daily basis that tire us. Then think of how they must feel in their complete and utterly debilitating exhaustion. Help them!

This is a minimal list, but I’m sure you get the idea. I have a friend who suffers from a connective tissue disorder and her physical symptoms run parallel with Shai’s. It’s a very difficult life, and I try to help her in any way I can. You, too, can make a difference in someone’s life. Share her post. Be on the lookout. Be an advocate for them. And offer assistance.

Joining you in the trenches, Shai, to help our friends and loved ones,

Passionista Mimi

You’re Supposed To Be Afraid!

I just read an amazing post by Lori Fields of “Your Worthy Self”. She is such an inspiration to me, and I love that we work together in the trenches to help women realize how amazing, worthy, creative, capable, and enough they are.

She speaks of fear as that which helps us grow… “You no longer have to subscribe to the belief that being scared equals being weak. Fear is always part of the landscape when you’re trying to do great things.”

And that our lives NEED resistance to grow!!

My insert here is to think of the plant that has to push its way through the soil (sometimes very hard, packed earth) in order to grow into what it was created to be! Those plants are way stronger and mature and more beautiful than those seedlings that lay on top of the soil and grow spindly and weak.

“The thing you push against is the thing that lifts you up.” – Delta Airlines

“Pushing off against your fear is what allows you to become who you’ve always wanted to be.” 

Go to her post and read every. single. word! Let it teach and inspire you.

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I equate doing something you are afraid of as “jumping off the high dive”. Taking the plunge into the unknown. You never know unless you try. All those cliches people use that are true. And most usually, you will astound yourself. You may fly. You may discover something about yourself that you really like. And better yet, you will have pushed against the fear!

And THAT’s what I’m talkin’ about!! You ROCK!!

Love and flight, Passionista Mimi

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