29 Jun 2015 Leave a comment
15 Jun 2015 Leave a comment
We hear these phrases all the time.
And so I ask you, WHAT is a BOX?
As a well-practiced People Pleaser, I do believe I was living inside a box of other people’s expectations, their opinions of me, their considerations of what was a worthy pursuit for my life, their molding of my behaviors, and what were acceptable expressions of who I am.
I truly had to shake off the binders and chains in order to break out of my box.
For a taste of what my FREEDOM looks like see Girls Can.
I know that God created me to be THIS person…who I am able to be (have allowed myself to be) now. Perhaps it’s age and wisdom. Maybe I just got too tired to try to be everyone’s opinion of me.
Or perhaps it was finally realizing my worth.
I did come to learn that when we allow others to “box us in” our experiences are boxed in too. We are bound by other’s opinions especially if we allow them to dictate the choices we make. I do not refer to consulting people of wisdom. I need others in my life who will help me consider options. But I do not need those who will think less of me if I don’t follow their advice.
I am a very opinionated person. I truly desire that my opinions come from a heart of love and compassion and a spirit that seeks after God. (I cannot stand cruelty, evil, injustice, and the horrid things humans do to other humans.)
I have been criticized. And I will continue to be, because I don’t neccessarily fit the box of a “typical” American God-follower. (I spent a lot of time writing and praying before I pushed the “publish” button on my last post as I do with every post. It’s a huge responsibility and risk to put my words and opinions out into cyber space forever!) However I try to seek God with all my heart, show love and compassion, and harm no one. If my way of being “Jesus with skin on” is different from yours and you don’t like it, well, it’s not my intention to offend. But Jesus offended many with His choices.
I would encourage you to learn to know your own self. To BE your own self. And not let the outside opinions, society, media, and sometimes even family, dissuade you from choosing to honor who you were created to be. I lost a lot of years of my life with my light hidden. I decided the world was missing out and I was incomplete and dying on the vine. So now I choose life!
Oh. And that BOX? It was flattened quite a while ago!
Have a wonderful week of self-discovery folks! And thank you so much for hanging in here with me.
10 May 2015 Leave a comment
My thoughts on being a mama (at age 48, no less!):
1~ I never wanted to be a mother. God had other plans. I wouldn’t change it for anything.
2~ Being a mom has totally changed me. It will. Nothing will ever be the same. You will never be the same person you were. It’s a good thing.
3~ I became a REAL warrior the day I became a mom.
4~ Though I didn’t birth my children, my love is as strong and encompassing as if I had.
5~ Though I loved my children from the day they came to live with us, I remember clearly the moment I fell “in love” with them. That feeling made all the sacrifice and hard times possible.
6~ Being a mom keeps me really, really close to Jesus! It also helps me understand God’s love for me.
7~ Motherhood ain’t for sissies! It’s exhausting, yet immensly satisfying, to be a mother. No one should take the calling and privilege lightly.
8~ You don’t have to be a mom to love children with all your heart. Our children need you! Love them with all you have.
There you have it. Wisdom from an old mama.
Hugs and love, Passionista
20 Apr 2015 Leave a comment
“Integrity” it the first word that came to mind when I saw this quote. And of course it applies to my business as well as my life.
*be good towards people
*be knowledgeable about your business
*be great in how you teach and share (and do business)
*be exceptionally dependable and trustworthy
*be good at havin FUN
I doubt many people ignore me now, but for many years I felt quite nondescript and non-important. I decided that I was the one to make myself feel important, and so set about changing my mindset. I’ve come to value my gifts, strengths, and personality…and play them to the hilt! :)
I encourage you to do the same. I love my life. And I hope that you will love yours too.
A couple of sources I’ve used are:
Strength Finder (I bought the book on Amazon)
and How To Fascinate. There are many others around that will help you find your strengths and then tell you ways to maximize them.
Keep on keeping on, dear ones.
Love and hugs, Passionista
Love and hugs, Passionista
07 Apr 2015 1 Comment
I read a wonderful blog post today
from Vanessa of At The Picket Fence.
I believe it’s at the heart of many damaging behaviors–
which most surely become weapons,
cutting to the very heart and soul.
My own insecurity led to attention-seeking behaviors….
people pleasing….and very “loud” body language
(because I wasn’t permitted to voice negative emotions,
and besides I might offend someone and then they would be mad at me–heaven forbid!)
Insecurity seeps into our lives because of many reasons, but I’d say the key issue is the feeling of “not good enough”.
Which leads us to lash out in anger.
Seek to establish control.
To strive to please.
To engage in self-defeating behaviors.
Things I’ve worked hard to remove from my life.
My “ah-ha” moment came years ago when I realized that the only person I needed to please was God. He alone had the purest love and intentions for me. Humans all have an agenda, realized or not. We perceive and receive others through that filtered agenda. Bottom line?
Our belief programs our behavior!
When I let go of others’ opinions and focused on my behaviors, I began the journey to freedom. Not without setbacks and “playing those old tapes” which programmed unhealthy behaviors, but definitely toward emotional healing!
I have learned that my only competition is myself and my focus is now on changing for the better, every day if possible.
We really can’t change people unless they decide to change themselves. Sometimes our own positive, accepting behaviors toward them will encourage that change. But if it doesn’t, we still have a choice, as Vanessa states.
Choose wisely, my friends, for we hold
the power of life and death in our words and deeds.
Read the whole post Vanessa wrote. She states it perfectly.
Thank you Vanessa, for your inspiring words today!
Rock your world, peeps!!
Hugs and love, Passionista
12 Mar 2015 Leave a comment
Oh my goodness you need to shine your light and share your life with the world!! We NEED you and your amazing self! Every single one of us–yes, that’s YOU–has a special, unique, and utterly awesome LIGHT within us and so many either don’t realize it or hide theirs under the bed, in a box, or the closet, or whereEVER it is they’ve decided it belongs. No way!! Don’t be afraid of your light. It’s a gift to you and to the world. You are someone who can make a huge difference in your world. YOU are someone amazing and delightful and powerful. So go for it!
YOU were born to SHINE!!