Be Whooo You Be and Bee Happy!

I’m hoping you are not like me–

wasting precious years not liking yourself

because of the lies you believe. You

are a unique creation,

full of amazing qualities,

quirks,

possibility,

and personality.

Celebrate YOU today!!

Be whooo you be and bee happy

You are truly a delightful and precious treasure!

Hugs and love, Mimi

P.S. Click on the pink “lies you believe” link  above to read my own realization and process. 

Why Not You?

why not me

I hope you never feel as if you are insignificant.

Dream that dream.

Set those goals before you.

Because, why shouldn’t you reach them?

You, as much as anyone you admire,

deserve the chance to do what your heart desires.

Yep, sometimes it takes a long time.

And it’s really, really tough.

But that is what makes the dream or goal valuable!

If it didn’t cost a lot, if it was easy,

would you value it as much?

Why NOT you?

Only you can set those limitations on yourself.

Keep dreaming and doing and reaching, my friend!!

I’m here with you!

Passionista Mimi

It’s ALL Love!

                               
oh darling I love you         You are something else

This heart-lifting video has been around for a while,

but I think now is a good time to post it again.

As a Passionista, one of the things I’m passionate about is

LOVE for ALL people.

I have known many people in my life.

All kinds of people.

And one thing I know,

love has NO boundaries.

And it rarely asks permission.

Perhaps you have already seen the video, 

but if so, watch it again and be reminded. 

Love to YOU!

Passionista Mimi

What IS a BOX anyway?

We shouldn't let others BOX us in.“Thinking outside the box.” “Living outside the box.”

We hear these phrases all the time.

And so I ask you, WHAT is a BOX?

As a well-practiced People Pleaser, I do believe I was living inside a box of other people’s expectations, their opinions of me, their considerations of what was a worthy pursuit for my life, their molding of my behaviors, and what were acceptable expressions of who I am.

I truly had to shake off the binders and chains in order to break out of my box.

For a taste of what my FREEDOM looks like see Girls Can.

I know that God created me to be THIS person…who I am able to be (have allowed myself to be) now. Perhaps it’s age and wisdom. Maybe I just got too tired to try to be everyone’s opinion of me.

Or perhaps it was finally realizing my worth.

I did come to learn that when we allow others to “box us in” our experiences are boxed in too. We are bound by other’s opinions especially if we allow them to dictate the choices we make. I do not refer to consulting people of wisdom. I need others in my life who will help me consider options. But I do not need those who will think less of me if I don’t follow their advice.

I am a very opinionated person. I truly desire that my opinions come from a heart of love and compassion and a spirit that seeks after God. (I cannot stand cruelty, evil, injustice, and the horrid things humans do to other humans.)

I have been criticized. And I will continue to be, because I don’t neccessarily fit the box of a “typical” American God-follower. (I spent a lot of time writing and praying before I pushed the “publish” button on my last post as I do with every post. It’s a huge responsibility and risk to put my words and opinions out into cyber space forever!)  However I try to seek God with all my heart, show love and compassion, and harm no one. If my way of being “Jesus with skin on” is different from yours and you don’t like it, well, it’s not my intention to offend. But Jesus offended many with His choices.

I would encourage you to learn to know your own self. To BE your own self. And not let the outside opinions, society, media, and sometimes even family, dissuade you from choosing to honor who you were created to be. I lost a lot of years of my life with my light hidden. I decided the world was missing out and I was incomplete and dying on the vine. So now I choose life!

this huge brilliant spectacular light of mine

Oh. And that BOX? It was flattened quite a while ago!

 

Have a wonderful week of self-discovery folks! And thank you so much for hanging in here with me.

Passionista Mimi

 

 

Caitlyn The Conqueror

are you judging

I struggle with the reactions to, and opinions being expressed about, Caitlyn Jenner. I mean, a psychiatrist saying that being transgender is a mental disorder?  And saying that a tragedy occurred when Bruce Jenner died and Caitlyn was born? Such harsh words! I realize that being a public person opens her to more criticism and judgement than many. Perhaps she can also be helpful to those fearful to make a change in their own lives.

I believe that Caitlyn–like all of us–deserves the right to be the person whom she feels she was born to be. She deserves the right to live completely and fully, as do all people. It’s not given to all of us, nor is this right guaranteed. But Caitlyn has conquered some of her past and is intending to live without the constraints of being wrongly gender-identified.

As a Sexual Health Educator, and after much consideration, I believe that I’m suppocriticizing-quotes-4sed to write this post because prejudice often comes from fear of the unknown. Here is just a touch on the subject. Hopefully it will help alleviate the condemnation of Caitlyn and others struggling to live as the “wrong” gender.

As I began studying in 2010, I found interesting information regarding how our chromosomes pair and how that affects our sexual and gender identity. Science has definitely progressed in the study of genetics and, contrary to most of our education regarding gender–where it was believed that XX and XY were the only chromosonal pairings possible, it has been discovered that humans have many pairings, as many as 70!!. Our chromosomes affect how we feel about ourselves in regard to our gender, and obviously with as many as 70 different combinations there are quite a few of us who do not follow the “norm” as determined by Americans.

Also, issues may arise while the fetus is developing that influence the genital development. One of those issues, Intersex, is defined as a congenital anomaly of the reproductive and sexual system (where genitalia of both genders is present at birth). This article about gender and genetics from the World Health Organization states:

“The Intersex Initiative, a North-American based organization, estimates that one in 2,000 children, or five children per day in the United States, are born visibly intersex” making it difficult to assign a gender.

So as many as FIVE babies/day in America are possibly assigned the WRONG gender. By the time they can show preference and self-identify (at around 2 years old) they have been firmly entrenched in their gender “conditioning”.

I am a teacher, and I believe in using my own education to help people understand human gender/sexuality and hopefully delete bias from our lives. I truly believe many just do not understand. Perhaps you too could study and help inform people.

Thank you for reading!

Mimi, Passionista Doing My Best

If you would like to know how to speak and write about transgender people, this is a good article.

Motherhood

My thoughts on being a mama (at age 48, no less!):
1~ I never wanted to be a mother. God had other plans. I wouldn’t change it for anything.
2~ Being a mom has totally changed me. It will. Nothing will ever be the same. You will never be the same person you were. It’s a good thing.
3~ I became a REAL warrior the day I became a mom.
4~ Though I didn’t birth my children, my love is as strong and encompassing as if I had.
5~ Though I loved my children from the day they came to live with us, I remember clearly the moment I fell “in love” with them. That feeling made all the sacrifice and hard times possible.
6~ Being a mom keeps me really, really close to Jesus! It also helps me understand God’s love for me.
7~ Motherhood ain’t for sissies! It’s exhausting, yet immensly satisfying, to be a mother. No one should take the calling and privilege lightly.

8~ You don’t have to be a mom to love children with all your heart. Our children need you! Love them with all you have.

There you have it. Wisdom from an old mama.

Motherhood

Hugs and love, Passionista

Be So Good They Can’t Ignore You!

Be so good they can't ignore you

“Integrity” it the first word that came to mind when I saw this quote. And of course it applies to my business as well as my life.
*be good towards people
*be knowledgeable about your business
*be great in how you teach and share (and do business)
*be exceptionally dependable and trustworthy
*be good at havin FUN 

 

I doubt many people ignore me now, but for many years I felt quite nondescript and non-important. I decided that I was the one to make myself feel important, and so set about changing my mindset. I’ve come to value my gifts, strengths, and personality…and play them to the hilt! :)

I encourage you to do the same. I love my life. And I hope that you will love yours too.

 

A couple of sources I’ve used are:

Strength Finder (I bought the book on Amazon)

and How To Fascinate. There are many others around that will help you find your strengths and then tell you ways to maximize them. 

Keep on keeping on, dear ones.
Love and hugs, Passionista

It’s Not You, It’s Me~Guest post

I read a wonderful blog post today

from Vanessa of At The Picket Fence.

About insecurity.

I believe it’s at the heart of many damaging behaviors–

which most surely become weapons,

cutting to the very heart and soul.

My own insecurity led to attention-seeking behaviors….

people pleasing….and very “loud” body language

(because I wasn’t permitted to voice negative emotions,

and besides I might offend someone and then they would be mad at me–heaven forbid!)

Insecurity seeps into our lives because of many reasons, but I’d say the key issue is the feeling of “not good enough”.

Which leads us to lash out in anger.

To manipulate.

Seek to establish control.

To strive to please.

To engage in self-defeating behaviors.

Things I’ve worked hard to remove from my life.

 

My “ah-ha” moment came years ago when I realized that the only person I needed to please was God. He alone had the purest love and intentions for me. Humans all have an agenda, realized or not. We perceive and receive others through that filtered agenda. Bottom line?

Our belief programs our behavior!

 

what we believe is how we behave

 

When I let go of others’ opinions and focused on my behaviors, I began the journey to freedom. Not without setbacks and “playing those old tapes” which programmed unhealthy behaviors, but definitely toward emotional healing!

 

I have learned that my only competition is myself and my focus is now on changing for the better, every day if possible.

 

The only person

 

We really can’t change people unless they decide to change themselves. Sometimes our own positive, accepting behaviors toward them will encourage that change. But if it doesn’t, we still have a choice, as Vanessa states.

 

imagine-our-world 2

 

Choose wisely, my friends, for we hold

the power of life and death in our words and deeds.

 

Read the whole post Vanessa wrote. She states it perfectly.

Thank you Vanessa, for your inspiring words today!

 

Rock your world, peeps!!

Hugs and love, Passionista

I Was Born To Shine!! (and YOU were too!)

I was born to shine
Oh my goodness you need to shine your light and share your life with the world!! We NEED you and your amazing self! Every single one of us–yes, that’s YOU–has a special, unique, and utterly awesome LIGHT within us and so many either don’t realize it or hide theirs under the bed, in a box, or the closet, or whereEVER it is they’ve decided it belongs. No way!! Don’t be afraid of your light. It’s a gift to you and to the world. You are someone who can make a huge difference in your world. YOU are someone amazing and delightful and powerful. So go for it!

YOU were born to SHINE!!

Taken For Granted

America has come a long way, but there is still a lot to be accomplished toward equality for all genders, races, sexual orientations, and religions. Every. single. one. of the freedoms we have been given was gained because people fought for them and gave their lives to guard or promote them. 

I believe that we become dulled to the privilege. We hear about people being denied “basic” human rights–in other countries as well as here in America. Yet, what does it really cost us? This post is recognizing the history of only one aspect of  our human rights–women’s right to vote. 

Perhaps this idea would be better addressed in the voting month of November, but my friend posted this on her blog, Voice of Pearls, and I just had to post it too from my perspective. 

Lady Gaga is a very talented artist, and portrays women’s suffrage in a slightly humorous, quirky way in her video Bad Romance: Women’s Suffrage while still conveying the torment and abuse our suffragists endured. Thank goodness those women never gave up, persisting until our right to vote was secured! 

and so she lit the way

Unfortunately, because we’ve grown up with these rights, we expect to always have them–and more. “Entitlement” is an attitude I see exhibited among those who haven’t had to fight for their freedoms (and those who have become dulled to the privileges). Do NOT take for granted our rights and our freedoms! 

Enjoy the video and please consider that equality for all Americans needs every American’s vote.

Thanks for reading!! I’d love to hear from you. :)

Passionista Mimi

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