Be So Good They Can’t Ignore You!

Be so good they can't ignore you

“Integrity” it the first word that came to mind when I saw this quote. And of course it applies to my business as well as my life.
*be good towards people
*be knowledgeable about your business
*be great in how you teach and share (and do business)
*be exceptionally dependable and trustworthy
*be good at havin FUN 

 

I doubt many people ignore me now, but for many years I felt quite nondescript and non-important. I decided that I was the one to make myself feel important, and so set about changing my mindset. I’ve come to value my gifts, strengths, and personality…and play them to the hilt! :)

I encourage you to do the same. I love my life. And I hope that you will love yours too.

 

A couple of sources I’ve used are:

Strength Finder (I bought the book on Amazon)

and How To Fascinate. There are many others around that will help you find your strengths and then tell you ways to maximize them. 

Keep on keeping on, dear ones.
Love and hugs, Passionista

It’s Not You, It’s Me~Guest post

I read a wonderful blog post today

from Vanessa of At The Picket Fence.

About insecurity.

I believe it’s at the heart of many damaging behaviors–

which most surely become weapons,

cutting to the very heart and soul.

My own insecurity led to attention-seeking behaviors….

people pleasing….and very “loud” body language

(because I wasn’t permitted to voice negative emotions,

and besides I might offend someone and then they would be mad at me–heaven forbid!)

Insecurity seeps into our lives because of many reasons, but I’d say the key issue is the feeling of “not good enough”.

Which leads us to lash out in anger.

To manipulate.

Seek to establish control.

To strive to please.

To engage in self-defeating behaviors.

Things I’ve worked hard to remove from my life.

 

My “ah-ha” moment came years ago when I realized that the only person I needed to please was God. He alone had the purest love and intentions for me. Humans all have an agenda, realized or not. We perceive and receive others through that filtered agenda. Bottom line?

Our belief programs our behavior!

 

what we believe is how we behave

 

When I let go of others’ opinions and focused on my behaviors, I began the journey to freedom. Not without setbacks and “playing those old tapes” which programmed unhealthy behaviors, but definitely toward emotional healing!

 

I have learned that my only competition is myself and my focus is now on changing for the better, every day if possible.

 

The only person

 

We really can’t change people unless they decide to change themselves. Sometimes our own positive, accepting behaviors toward them will encourage that change. But if it doesn’t, we still have a choice, as Vanessa states.

 

imagine-our-world 2

 

Choose wisely, my friends, for we hold

the power of life and death in our words and deeds.

 

Read the whole post Vanessa wrote. She states it perfectly.

Thank you Vanessa, for your inspiring words today!

 

Rock your world, peeps!!

Hugs and love, Passionista

I Was Born To Shine!! (and YOU were too!)

I was born to shine
Oh my goodness you need to shine your light and share your life with the world!! We NEED you and your amazing self! Every single one of us–yes, that’s YOU–has a special, unique, and utterly awesome LIGHT within us and so many either don’t realize it or hide theirs under the bed, in a box, or the closet, or whereEVER it is they’ve decided it belongs. No way!! Don’t be afraid of your light. It’s a gift to you and to the world. You are someone who can make a huge difference in your world. YOU are someone amazing and delightful and powerful. So go for it!

YOU were born to SHINE!!

Taken For Granted

America has come a long way, but there is still a lot to be accomplished toward equality for all genders, races, sexual orientations, and religions. Every. single. one. of the freedoms we have been given was gained because people fought for them and gave their lives to guard or promote them. 

 

I believe that we become dulled to the privilege. We hear about people being denied “basic” human rights–in other countries as well as here in America. Yet, what does it really cost us? This post is recognizing the history of only one aspect of  our human rights–women’s right to vote. 

 

Perhaps this idea would be better addressed in the voting month of November, but my friend posted this on her blog, Voice of Pearls, and I just had to post it too from my perspective. 

 

Lady Gaga is a very talented artist, and portrays women’s suffrage in a slightly humorous, quirky way in her video Bad Romance: Women’s Suffrage while still conveying the torment and abuse our suffragists endured. Thank goodness those women never gave up, persisting until our right to vote was secured! 

and so she lit the way

Unfortunately, because we’ve grown up with these rights, we expect to always have them–and more. “Entitlement” is an attitude I see exhibited among those who haven’t had to fight for their freedoms (and those who have become dulled to the privileges). Do NOT take for granted our rights and our freedoms! 

 

Enjoy the video and please consider that equality for all Americans needs every American’s vote.

Thanks for reading!! I’d love to hear from you. :)

Passionista Mimi

Yes I AM!!! (A Valentine to Myself)

Valentine’s can be a time that sends those of us whom are uncoupled (I just learned that word, convenient, huh?) into despondency and gloom. It kind of creates the Bah Humbug spirit in us when we see the hearts and flowers, the endless ads with couples looking adoringly into each other’s eyes, even the little kids being all gaga…

It’s enough to makes us want to cry.

Perhaps you would like to try something different this year? 

we are amazingly intricately different

 

Celebrate YOU!!

 

In my own journey, I have finally realized that I’m a pretty amazing person. (For more on that see http://particularpassions.me/2014/01/07/5430/).    It doesn’t matter what others think. It doesn’t depend on whether I have a significant other to tell me. It’s all about ME. 

Making the choice to celebrate ME. 

 

Seeing the good things in who I am. Finding joy in how I was created. Focusing on those things that help me contribute to others’ lives in a positive way. NOT apologizing for my kinks and uniqueness, but instead enjoying that I am different. 

Oh my goodness I'm incredible!

 

Easy? Nope, never said that. 

Possible? Yep, after a bit of work and choosing to do it.

 

So I made myself a Valentine this year. First time ever. And I’m sharing it with you. 

You may use it too! Read these wonderful words and claim them over your life.

Yes I am!

I am no better than you are….so you are every bit as wonderful as this says. Really.

I believe we each need to give a Valentine to ourselves. If you’d like, make it into your wallpaper, print it out and READ it daily!

YOU are amazing and wonderful and the best Valentine you will ever have!!

 

MUCH love and hugs to you, precious Valentine! Passionista Mimi

OH, and hey, if you like what you read, why not share the love and click, pin, like, etc.? I’d give you an extra big hug. Thanks!

YOU are Amazing!! And don’t you forget it!

You ARE amazing!! I finally began to believe that about myself after a few days of saying it out loud in front of the mirror. The year was 2008. For most of my life I’d felt “less-than” so it took a bit of making a firm choice and perseverance to follow this program.

 

I’d sit in front of my empty journal page, pull those truths from my spirit, and begin writing them down in bulleted format. I’d walk around my house, saying, “I’m intelligent. I’m capable. I can do this. I’m creative. I’m a great problem-solver.”

 

Granted, I was almost afraid that I’d be struck by lightning because I’d been raised not to “toot my own horn” or brag about myself. However, I am here to STOMP that lie in the ground! Stating your awesomeness and joy in your uniqueness and abilities, your gifts and wonderful heart, is NOT bragging. It’s just proclaiming truth.

We need to both hear and say those truths to ourselves because the world would have us believing that we are stupid, useless, and incapable (to just name a few). Well, dear Passionista, THAT is a bunch of hog wash! Lies, every bit of it!

 

If you have trouble finding the truth about yourself, there are many, many resources even on Facebook that will help you. (I am one of those). But honestly, your spirit KNOWS. Give yourself time to reflect. Probably just choose the opposite of what you most likely believe about yourself, if it is degrading or detrimental to your emotional and psychological health and growth.

 

 To be the very best YOU possible, you need to invest in yourself. Take the time. Even on the way to work if it’s your only alone time. (Ummm, reminding yourself that you are amazing after you swear at that driver might not be the best way, but hey, if it works for you go for it!) Or while you are in the shower—IF you happen to enjoy that by yourself–but getting upset with your body while you are stating your incredible amazing -ness  is quite counteractive.  Our bodies do NOT determine our awesomeness!

 beauty is not in the face

 I just want to encourage you to feed your own soul. As women we take care of everyone else, which can sure lead to resentment and exhaustion. Doing this is a small, but huge and important, way to nourish yourself.

 

 So what do you say? Let me know some of your “truths” in the comment below. I’d love to hear from you! <3

Love and hugs, Passionista

 

PS Hey, I have created some visuals (cards and small posters and a calendar) for you to place where you will see them to help remind you to state your truths daily. If interested, go to https://www.etsy.com/shop/EmPOWordmentCards or contact me directly. They help, they really do, and I created them with YOU in mind. Luv ya.

PPS Here are a few places I receive empowerment and encouragement.

Wild Sister Magazine     https://www.facebook.com/wildsistermag

When you join, please use my link! Thanks. http://wildsister.com/sisterhood?ap_id=mimimatthews

MEF’s Empowering Women and More     https://www.facebook.com/reinna911

Women on Fire   https://www.facebook.com/BeAWomanOnFire

Living The Life I Love

soar

So here’s the deal….

I’m living the life I love NOW!! Right now.

It’s absolutely amazing (albeit exhausting!).

It’s taken a long, at times very difficult, seven-year adventure to be here, but as I reflect,

I am so blessed and excited and I know that this year I will indeed SOAR!!

I’m sitting here in my amazing office

where the magic happens,

making card designs, envisioning them on the walls of people everywhere,

bringing encouragement, joy, light, power, and faith to those who look at them.

It doesn’t get much better than this (unless, of course, I get to SPEAK into their lives, lol).

Whoooeeee ready to jump off that high dive once more!

Yes, this is my life these days. I just keep on jumpin'. And hey, this is a card you can buy! Cool, huh? Just click on it.

Yes, this is my life these days. I just keep on jumpin’. And hey, this is a card you can buy! Cool, huh? Just click on it.

 

I’m so thankful that y’all are along for the ride. Are you ready to take a jump? TAG–you’re it!!

A Year of Wildness + Special Gift

This has been an amazing year for me in so many ways! One of those ways has been to jump off the high dive (yes, another one) and tap into my creativity in ways I never envisioned. My

EmPOWordment©Cards by Mimi  have been reaching into people’s lives in a way that thrills me! Yay! Let’s hear it for empowering and encouraging!

Let's super-size with love

Debbie Phillips, the amazing founder of Women On Fire, gave us these words during a live chat this year.

Another way I’ve grown is to become much more confident and aware of the fabulous person I am. Perhaps that sounds conceited, but really, it’s just the voice of realizing how wonderfully made we ALL are, and proclaiming it! It’s become my mission to help other women attain that same sense of awareness and confidence.

Do YOU need this gentle reminder?

One of the things that helped me to focus, grow, and embrace ME is that I joined an online group called Wild Sisterhood. This is a very creative bunch of women led by Jen Saunders from Australia. The ladies in this group are encouraging and offer all they have to help a sister out. She is offering a special rate to join. There are so many things you receive, besides the support of online sisterhood (free e-classes, gorgeous computer wallpapers, printouts, and graphics that nourish your soul).

nourish your wild soul

If you are ready to nourish your soul with wildness, inspiration, & sisterhood and step into your power with a tribe of Wild Sisters cheering you on every step of the way, click on this link and read about it!

http://wildsister.com/sisterhood/?ap_id=mimimatthews

 

Read more right here!

 Dive into devotion with @jen__saunders + Devotion to Self. #devotiontoself http://wildsister.com/devotiontoself/?ap_id=mimimatthews

 

A GIFT FOR YOU!

AND if you enroll I will gift you with a complete package of my Mini Posters!! 

https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.972990036048396.1073741830.972074146139985&type=3

23 cards collage

Mini Posters fit into a business-sized envelope. There are 32 of these, and they are the smaller, flat version of my 5×7 cards! These are great for bolstering self-esteem, rewarding great effort, empowering and encouraging! Place in lunch boxes, on your mirror, in your office, drop on a co-worker’s desk, on a bulletin board, etc., etc., you get the idea! A $10 value!

*Once you become a member of Wild Sisterhood comment to me and I’ll do the rest!

*I am receiving compensation on my own membership when you join. So thank you in advance for helping a sister out! It’s something that will be good for your soul!

May you have a wonderful day, and let me know what you think!!

Big hugs, Passionista Mimi

Wounding Brings Light

The wound is the place where the light enters you. Rumi

I have precious friends who have gone through some really hard, hard stuff this past year. Some of it will take a while to heal from. And while people say that kind of thing will make us stronger, it still hurts like all get out.

 

I found this quote by Rumi that made me consider the wounds we receive. When reflecting on the wounding in my own life, I realize that because of the circumstances that created the wounds, and because of my own healing through them, I am able to give to hope to others. I am able to give some ideas of ways to endure through to healing. I am able to not only let the light of truth into my spirit through those wounds, but to let the light back out to others. And for that, I am grateful.

 

My own wounds have indeed given me a richer life toward helping others, as preposterous as that sounds. This may seem a strange post for the first day of the new year, but it’s my experience that as we heal we grow. And if we are going to live our best lives, the healing must come. It’s a hard enough life and navigating through it with only part of a heart is awfully difficult and can be very treacherous.

 

So, dear wounded warrior, let the light of truth, hope, and love in and may you heal.

 

 

Here’s to a great year ahead, with blessings,

awesome experiences,

lots of wonderful friends and love,

and possibility!!

Love and hugs, Passionista

Constant and Determined Effort~Quote I Borrowed

“It’s the constant and determined

effort that breaks down

all resistance

and sweeps away all obstacles.”

Claude M. Bristol

Don Charisma “harvests” quotes that I enjoy reading, and posts them on his blog. This one speaks loudly to me! Check out his site:

http://doncharisma.org/2014/12/28/its-the-constant-and-determined-effort-that-breaks-down-all-resistance-and-sweeps-away-all-obstacles/

(He’s an amazing photographer too!)

 Thanks, Don, for once again giving me something to ponder. 

Y’all go visit him, and give him a shout-out from me!

Happy almost-new-year!

Passionista Mimi

 

 

 

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