We Can’t Give More Than What We Are

we can't give more than what we are

Without giving ourselves compassion,

 we can’t be compassionate.

When we judge ourselves harshly,

we can’t be accepting.

If we feel that our lives lack,

we can’t give generously.

When we feel that we are not enough,

we can’t lift up and applaud others.

When we take ourselves too seriously,

we can’t enjoy life.

If we don’t love ourselves unconditionally,

we can’t truly love others without conditions.

If we aren’t honest with ourselves,

we can’t grow and change.

These are truths I’ve gleaned over the years

of re-inventing myself.

Of becoming the person I was truly created to be.

I believe JOY

Your life is amazing. If you are breathing, you have something to be grateful for. And gratefulness will create joy. It will bring abundance (I’m not talking monetary value, but the value of life, friends, and passions that fill your soul.)

And just in case you were wondering…..there is enough for all of us.

Enough love

passion

friends

work

joy

adventure

creativity

We have a tendency to view the world from our little worm hole

and think that we are never, ever going to be enough, have enough, or live enough.

I used to be like that.

Then I realized that there are billions of people. Millions of opportunities.

We live in a great big world.

And though you may not especially like your life right now, it can change.

Change is always possible.

Of course, it means conquering the limiting emotion of fear.

It means you have to stop lying to yourself. 

To change means becoming vulnerable.

YIKES!! No way! I can’t do it! I’m so afraid! It will hurt too much.

And what will happen to me?

Change will happen. Better will happen. Abundance will happen.

So will love, joy, adventure, assurance, confidence, and fulfillment.

I’m rooting for you, cheering you on as you make wise, healthy choices toward becoming more so you can give more.

For it’s in giving that we grow toward abundance.

Thank you for reading, and I hope you have a wonderful week.

Love and hugs, Passionista

You Are Significant and You Matter!

There are times that we feel very unimportant.
We ALL have experienced that feeling.

But I am here to verify that you DO matter…

to the people whose lives you touch every day,

to our world because of your light shining in it,

to our earth and the everyday choices you make to care for it.

The light that shines in you is important!

The world NEEDS you and your distinct gifts, abilities, love, and touch.

I am significant and I matter

Click on picture to purchase.

And even more remarkable,

the God who created all the stars and knows them by name (!!!) intimately knows YOU,

loves you dearly, and is cheering for you!!

And that, my love, should make you feel like the absolutely mostest special person

in the whole wide world!


But if you still struggle with feeling insignificant,

please print this card and put it somewhere you will see it and remember.

Read and repeat. It will change your life!

Words matter. Speak life to yourself!

Love and hugs, Passionista

Stop Trying To Get It Right

stop trying to get it right

Today I read those words from Your Worthy Self and I wanted to stand up and cheer!

 

For so many, many years, actually for decades, I lived my life trying to get everything right. Typical “People Pleaser” right here.

 

The thing about living like that? It’s exhausting. And depletes our joy. And we give other people power over us because we make “them” right. 

 

So, here’s what I say. Decide what you want and go for it. Who cares if you make mistakes? So what if you miss at first? Give yourself some grace. And don’t give a darn what others think. (Many of them are hoping you fail because then it excuses their own fear. Did you know that?) 

 

You owe it to your true self to attempt those things that you believe will fulfill your soul. What if you never go for it? You will always wonder what would have happened if you did–how your life might have changed for the better–what you may have learned along the way. 

 

Don’t live with regrets. Just do it. With gusto and abandon!!

Because, you just never know!!

 

(Print out the above reminder and put it where you can read it daily. )

 

Live LOUD friends! You have one life. Live it with gusto!

Love and hugs, Passionista Mimi

Be Whooo You Be and Bee Happy!

I’m hoping you are not like me–

wasting precious years not liking yourself

because of the lies you believe. You

are a unique creation,

full of amazing qualities,

quirks,

possibility,

and personality.

Celebrate YOU today!!

Be whooo you be and bee happy

You are truly a delightful and precious treasure!

Hugs and love, Mimi

P.S. Click on the pink “lies you believe” link  above to read my own realization and process. 

Why Not You?

why not me

I hope you never feel as if you are insignificant.

Dream that dream.

Set those goals before you.

Because, why shouldn’t you reach them?

You, as much as anyone you admire,

deserve the chance to do what your heart desires.

Yep, sometimes it takes a long time.

And it’s really, really tough.

But that is what makes the dream or goal valuable!

If it didn’t cost a lot, if it was easy,

would you value it as much?

Why NOT you?

Only you can set those limitations on yourself.

Keep dreaming and doing and reaching, my friend!!

I’m here with you!

Passionista Mimi

It’s ALL Love!

                               
oh darling I love you         You are something else

This heart-lifting video has been around for a while,

but I think now is a good time to post it again.

As a Passionista, one of the things I’m passionate about is

LOVE for ALL people.

I have known many people in my life.

All kinds of people.

And one thing I know,

love has NO boundaries.

And it rarely asks permission.

Perhaps you have already seen the video, 

but if so, watch it again and be reminded. 

Love to YOU!

Passionista Mimi

What IS a BOX anyway?

We shouldn't let others BOX us in.“Thinking outside the box.” “Living outside the box.”

We hear these phrases all the time.

And so I ask you, WHAT is a BOX?

As a well-practiced People Pleaser, I do believe I was living inside a box of other people’s expectations, their opinions of me, their considerations of what was a worthy pursuit for my life, their molding of my behaviors, and what were acceptable expressions of who I am.

I truly had to shake off the binders and chains in order to break out of my box.

For a taste of what my FREEDOM looks like see Girls Can.

I know that God created me to be THIS person…who I am able to be (have allowed myself to be) now. Perhaps it’s age and wisdom. Maybe I just got too tired to try to be everyone’s opinion of me.

Or perhaps it was finally realizing my worth.

I did come to learn that when we allow others to “box us in” our experiences are boxed in too. We are bound by other’s opinions especially if we allow them to dictate the choices we make. I do not refer to consulting people of wisdom. I need others in my life who will help me consider options. But I do not need those who will think less of me if I don’t follow their advice.

I am a very opinionated person. I truly desire that my opinions come from a heart of love and compassion and a spirit that seeks after God. (I cannot stand cruelty, evil, injustice, and the horrid things humans do to other humans.)

I have been criticized. And I will continue to be, because I don’t neccessarily fit the box of a “typical” American God-follower. (I spent a lot of time writing and praying before I pushed the “publish” button on my last post as I do with every post. It’s a huge responsibility and risk to put my words and opinions out into cyber space forever!)  However I try to seek God with all my heart, show love and compassion, and harm no one. If my way of being “Jesus with skin on” is different from yours and you don’t like it, well, it’s not my intention to offend. But Jesus offended many with His choices.

I would encourage you to learn to know your own self. To BE your own self. And not let the outside opinions, society, media, and sometimes even family, dissuade you from choosing to honor who you were created to be. I lost a lot of years of my life with my light hidden. I decided the world was missing out and I was incomplete and dying on the vine. So now I choose life!

this huge brilliant spectacular light of mine

Oh. And that BOX? It was flattened quite a while ago!

 

Have a wonderful week of self-discovery folks! And thank you so much for hanging in here with me.

Passionista Mimi

 

 

Caitlyn The Conqueror

are you judging

I struggle with the reactions to, and opinions being expressed about, Caitlyn Jenner. I mean, a psychiatrist saying that being transgender is a mental disorder?  And saying that a tragedy occurred when Bruce Jenner died and Caitlyn was born? Such harsh words! I realize that being a public person opens her to more criticism and judgement than many. Perhaps she can also be helpful to those fearful to make a change in their own lives.

I believe that Caitlyn–like all of us–deserves the right to be the person whom she feels she was born to be. She deserves the right to live completely and fully, as do all people. It’s not given to all of us, nor is this right guaranteed. But Caitlyn has conquered some of her past and is intending to live without the constraints of being wrongly gender-identified.

As a Sexual Health Educator, and after much consideration, I believe that I’m suppocriticizing-quotes-4sed to write this post because prejudice often comes from fear of the unknown. Here is just a touch on the subject. Hopefully it will help alleviate the condemnation of Caitlyn and others struggling to live as the “wrong” gender.

As I began studying in 2010, I found interesting information regarding how our chromosomes pair and how that affects our sexual and gender identity. Science has definitely progressed in the study of genetics and, contrary to most of our education regarding gender–where it was believed that XX and XY were the only chromosonal pairings possible, it has been discovered that humans have many pairings, as many as 70!!. Our chromosomes affect how we feel about ourselves in regard to our gender, and obviously with as many as 70 different combinations there are quite a few of us who do not follow the “norm” as determined by Americans.

Also, issues may arise while the fetus is developing that influence the genital development. One of those issues, Intersex, is defined as a congenital anomaly of the reproductive and sexual system (where genitalia of both genders is present at birth). This article about gender and genetics from the World Health Organization states:

“The Intersex Initiative, a North-American based organization, estimates that one in 2,000 children, or five children per day in the United States, are born visibly intersex” making it difficult to assign a gender.

So as many as FIVE babies/day in America are possibly assigned the WRONG gender. By the time they can show preference and self-identify (at around 2 years old) they have been firmly entrenched in their gender “conditioning”.

I am a teacher, and I believe in using my own education to help people understand human gender/sexuality and hopefully delete bias from our lives. I truly believe many just do not understand. Perhaps you too could study and help inform people.

Thank you for reading!

Mimi, Passionista Doing My Best

If you would like to know how to speak and write about transgender people, this is a good article.

Motherhood

My thoughts on being a mama (at age 48, no less!):
1~ I never wanted to be a mother. God had other plans. I wouldn’t change it for anything.
2~ Being a mom has totally changed me. It will. Nothing will ever be the same. You will never be the same person you were. It’s a good thing.
3~ I became a REAL warrior the day I became a mom.
4~ Though I didn’t birth my children, my love is as strong and encompassing as if I had.
5~ Though I loved my children from the day they came to live with us, I remember clearly the moment I fell “in love” with them. That feeling made all the sacrifice and hard times possible.
6~ Being a mom keeps me really, really close to Jesus! It also helps me understand God’s love for me.
7~ Motherhood ain’t for sissies! It’s exhausting, yet immensly satisfying, to be a mother. No one should take the calling and privilege lightly.

8~ You don’t have to be a mom to love children with all your heart. Our children need you! Love them with all you have.

There you have it. Wisdom from an old mama.

Motherhood

Hugs and love, Passionista

Be So Good They Can’t Ignore You!

Be so good they can't ignore you

“Integrity” it the first word that came to mind when I saw this quote. And of course it applies to my business as well as my life.
*be good towards people
*be knowledgeable about your business
*be great in how you teach and share (and do business)
*be exceptionally dependable and trustworthy
*be good at havin FUN 

 

I doubt many people ignore me now, but for many years I felt quite nondescript and non-important. I decided that I was the one to make myself feel important, and so set about changing my mindset. I’ve come to value my gifts, strengths, and personality…and play them to the hilt! :)

I encourage you to do the same. I love my life. And I hope that you will love yours too.

 

A couple of sources I’ve used are:

Strength Finder (I bought the book on Amazon)

and How To Fascinate. There are many others around that will help you find your strengths and then tell you ways to maximize them. 

Keep on keeping on, dear ones.
Love and hugs, Passionista

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